i'm 22 and i STILL dont know what to do with myself???

Question

i left school 7 years ago, since then i have worked in sooooo many diffrent jobs and gave studied two courses one of which im failing for the 2nd time round due to illness...AGAIN! it seems every time i figure out what to do with my life something happens and i seem to get stuck.....i feel as if i still havent found what it is i want to do with my life yet and i KNOW i dont have much more time to ummmmm n arrrrrrr i feel as if i'm always doing things to make other people happy tricking myself into thinking im doing it for myself.... i feel emotionly and mentaly unstable.... i wish i could just make a decision, but in doin so not affect my world around me i dunno i think im goin mad!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Believe it or not, I am 60 and still struggling to find my place and purpose.

My 35 yr old step-daughter recently asked when the struggle ends. I said"I'm 60 and you see how it's going"

Obviously you never had an adult mentor as a child. You writing this letter is a start to a new and stable life. Keep reading your letter untill you get it and then write some more. If you like, you can write to me. You would be helping me while I help you.

You must take care of 'numero uno', that is you and you have to come first. What you are doing is wearing yourself out trying to get people to like you so you can fit in somewhere. I finally realized that I am different than everyone else. I have some kind of special purpose and it has yet to be recognized. I am getting closer all the time. In the meantime, I am doing my best to enjoy the journey with my fourth wife as my best friend. You see, it took a lot of disappointment for me to finally find a woman who really loved me.

Just remember, set a goal of a lifestyle that you like, and learn the path. Develop your mind and body.

Put the following on your bathroom mirror and say it every morning and every evening but in the past tense.

"I am a warm and wonderful person, and everyone who meets me is better off for having met you"

Trust me, there is a soul mate out there for you. The problem is, he/she won't show up untill you get stabilized with a strong foundation. Any one else will only bring you heartache. Get your standards to the highest and accept nothing but the best. Just pass on everything else and focus on getting you act together. This life is a do-it-yourself project. "All the world's a stage" so go write a great script for yourself and let everyone else run their own life.

You can lend a hand as long as it doesn't detract from your mission.

You can tell that your have at least one fan, me.

Go have a great life.

Answer 2

i think you should be the poster boy for dropouts everywhere. you start things, then don't finish them. sure blame your failures on illness, that's an old standby. many make themselves sick in order to dodge out of things.

you say you're running out of time to hem and haw; got news for ya, you are way outa time. some of those kids you left in the classroom seven years ago are making bank. some are finishing up degrees. you're sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. this don't cut it.

maybe you need to get up from in front of the computer and go get a job. get two. hell, i've worked three at once. you need to get active. don't you have any passion? can't deal with school? don't deal with school. go flip some burgers.

one thing is for certain friend, you better find some passion in your life. if you cannot, you better find some help. i would suggest counseling. this week. tomorrow if possible. make the call today.

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Answer 3

I'd say your first step is to schedule a appointment with a mental health professional. And, no I'm not joking. I went through that, and I thought I would never figure it out! I finally found out that I am bipolar. Now that I have that under control, I am much happier and stable. I'm not saying you are bipolar, but depression can be a cause.

Answer 4

join the club.
who really knows what to do with themselves?
I honestly think the percentage of people who know where they're going with their lives is very small.
you don't just wake up one day and it all makes sense.. either you make a choice, stick with it and make it work for you.. or you keep searching until you find something that gives you satisfaction and doesn't drive you crazy!
I'm a fair bit older than you and I've never stayed anywhere longer than 5 years.. I moved continents, changed careers, and I'm STILL not satisfied!
maybe some of us are just flaky.. HAHA
I wish I could be more helpful but you just gotta find they things that make you happy..
trust me, you have PLENTY of time.. unless you planned on retiring to the bahamas at 30, you have a ton of time..

Answer 5

Perhaps you should be in business for yourself.