Question: A close female friend told me that a woman was casually talking to her husband. (The husband didn't want his wife to tell the friend (me)
The woman mentioned to my friend's husband that she had an affair with a married man and has a child by him. She shows him (my friend's husband) a picture of the son and tells him she know its not her husband but it is another man's baby (my husband). My friend's husband works with the woman and she just confessed to him that she had an affair with my husband. What do I (wife) do? How can I get the facts not hear say... Should I call the other woman? Confront my husband or do I leave bad alone...??? I don't have enough money to hire a private investigator so what can I do within the law. Don't want to get arrested for Domestic Violence.
I am grieved over this - and I know if I ask my husband - he will deny this again
2007-03-20 04:29:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
call "CHEATERS".
2007-03-20 05:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously it is an issue you need settled. Why not just confront him and find out the truth. Sometimes there isn't any truth in rumours, other times there are. IF it is his then it is a betrayal on his part and you deserve better. It could also be her just making up stories because she is interested in your husband and is hoping that by lying she can get what she wants. Always go to the person the rumour is about and get it cleared up. You won't be happy until you have an answer obviously if you are thinking about hiring a private investigator. If your husband claims it isn't his, yet she insists you could always suggest a paternity test and that would give you a definite answer that is not questionable.
For your sake I hope that it is just her lying, however I have heard of this happening before and I suggest you take the initiative and put his rumour to rest by either verifying it, or disproving it with medical fact.
2007-03-20 11:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by Angelface_the_1st 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you feel that your husband will lie to you call her and ask her to meet you. When she starts telling you the story (if it is your husband's) stay calm and ask her for proof. This could be DNA etc. If she refuses then the odds she is lying as well. But if she is all gung ho then you should follow thru. Just remember there are somethings that we would rather not know. So if you open this can of worms be prepared for all the consequences that comes with it.
2007-03-20 11:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the other woman and just tell her that you heard some rumors about her and your husband possibly having an affair and conceiving a child....
If she admits it maybe you should go stay at a friends house for a couple of days to gather your thoughts, before you get arrested for domestic violence.
2007-03-20 11:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to re-ask this question in first person....it is way too confusing! I am assuming your husband has a baby with another woman and you found out through the grapevine. Ask him, and then confront the person who told you your husband was the father.....get to the bottom of this already!
2007-03-20 11:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
good grief this reads like a high school gossip line......if your husband has a child with someone else, I would think you could easily tell from your bank account; but I wouldn't trust anything I heard from a friend of a friend who worked with a friend of my husbands friend; surely you know whether he has had an affair or not
2007-03-20 11:35:39 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them both (seperatly) and tell your husband that all you need is the truth. hopefully he will be a man enough to admit what happened (if it really did) and more importantly, if it did, take care of his child. Then you can decide what you want for yourself.
2007-03-20 11:46:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
id confront your husband then id call the other women and let your husband hear what you tell her and id have him get a dna to see if its your husbands baby or if shes lying
2007-03-20 11:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, I would confront them both.....Call her if you need to and ask your husband and from there if you need to have them both there then so be it......You'll never be able to move forward until you are completely secure and okay....
Good luck...........
2007-03-20 11:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
take him to the Morry show and have him take a lie detector test.
2007-03-20 11:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ed76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋