1.I've not spoken to my close female friend for 4 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.WE WERE NEVER A COUPLE
2.1 month ago she sent a txt saying the friendship is OVER and for me to get on with my life.
3.A week later we met at a friends reunuion party,we spoke a lot but she looked hurt and uncomfortable.At the end of the night she hugged me tightly and said take care+we'll see each other on the group roadtrip.
4.Today I wrote her an email(via facebook,where we've emailed ech other a few times) asking if we're still friends(was confused as she said the friendship is over).
She wrote back saying:"Yes emailings great.Yes we are still friends. Yes, I'm very busy. Yes, I'm sure you are too xx"--WHY SO BLUNT/RUDE REPLY?
5.How do I rebuild this friendship due to my selfishness?Can it be rebuilt?
p.s. She's got a BF now-I'm happy for her,I fancy 2 other girls now!
2007-03-20 04:27:26 · 11 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ALSO: When i apologised to her at the party for hurting her,she snapped back saying "You never hurt me!Right!"--was I right in apologising?
2007-03-20 04:28:43 · update #1
Contact has only been restored for a month-if not less!Before we didn't speak to each other for 4 MONTHS.Does that play a part-surely she'd have told me where to go,rather then pretend to be my friend?
2007-03-20 04:37:05 · update #2
How long cud it possibly take-she's going abroad for 9 months in September
2007-03-20 04:39:58 · update #3
You have got to realise you hurt her by starting to 'stop' your friendship - even if it was because of your strong feelings for her. Perhaps you thought it was for the best and she didn't feel the same way and you could therefore have caused her pain in the outcome.
She was probably very angry and hurt by your actions and has retaliated by being 'off' with you. However, when you bumped into each other she probably realised what a good time you had together as friends and realised what was missing.
It's probably going to take a long time for her to forgive and really you can't blame her for being how she is as she doesn't know how you are going to react.
2007-03-20 04:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dont blame her for moving on. There are plenty of fidh in the sea. Meet another girl that doesn't get PO'D all the time and likes the same stuff as you. Also ask yourself Do I really lile this girl or is she FAKE. That will lead you to were you need to go.
2007-03-20 04:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really wouldnt waste anymore time on her. i bet you anything if you start getting on with your life she will make contact and then you can write back...yes i am busy, yes i dont care...and yes im over you.
She sounds like a cow. Plenty of other people out there that are much nicer who are worth far more spending your time with, not wasting your time with losers with no respect for your feelings.
2007-03-20 04:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like she's just being your friend to keep you happy.
I have a guy like that, im really not bothered about him but he's obsessed with me. I just tend to say 'yeah...ok...sure' n stuff in emails just to keep him happy cause im not mean enough to tell him i aint bothered about him.
It seems like she's not really interested in your friendship other than saying hi and stuff. i think you should move on and forget about her, just keep her as an aquaintance because she doesnt seem to want any form of friendship.
sorry!
x
2007-03-20 04:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by tablesalt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start up your own relationship and send her an email saying that uve met som 1 and ur very happy and ask if you could meet up. u and ur gf and her nd her bf.
good luck
2007-03-20 04:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by addicted to this 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say stay away, the situation and the girl sound very confusing to me.
2007-03-20 07:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by Bugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a bloody nutcase,well done you for getting rid,Ive known a few people like her and I keep well away.
2007-03-20 04:37:05 · answer #7 · answered by Pat R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I'd leave things don't contact her again. When you see her be polite but don't go over the top. Time's a healer
2007-03-20 04:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you were right. I think you guys can be friends still. I think your friendship is worth it. Just work at it.
2007-03-20 04:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by sanj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its part of growing up having feelings for the same sex. you will find somebody good luck
i know you said girls only to answer, i just wanted to help xx
2007-03-20 04:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by andyj251 on ebay 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋