and says she and her first husband always enjoyed having O.S. as this was the only way he could satisfy her. Her new husband has never done it and although she has worked herself into a position which could leave him in doubt of her desires, and sometimes she even think he is going to do it, he always backs away. Says sometimes she feels as if she is going to go crazy and wants to scream. She has no intention of cheating, although she says it comes across her mind, especially when she discusses matters with her sisters, and feels so envious when they say how happy they are with it.
She has to pretend. She says she is squeeky clean.
2007-03-20 04:11:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anthony F 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she should talk to her hubby...he's the one who has to hear this and he's the one who can solve her problem...be careful and don't get too close to a woman in need... :)
2007-03-20 06:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes across her mind it will happen one day. Being desperate just because your a widow is BS. I've been a widower for almost 10 years and even though I'd like to be in a relationship, I'm not frivolous and have a higher conscience that it isn't as big of an issue as it could be.
2007-03-20 13:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother always told me that a "closed mouth don't get feed", which means, if you don't ask you won't receive. Don't be afraid to ask especially if he's your husband, or even if he's your boyfriend, how can you have a relationship with no communication, this will never work, because he's going to think you don't like him sexually, and her urges to cheat will get stronger and stronger, and please believe the devil works in mysterious ways, he will definitely send someone along that will only want to please her orally. Then what? She's going to cheat, because she wants it so bad. Don't ruin a good relationship because of lack of communication. Do you give o.s. to him if yes, then he should be willing to do it to you. If no, then suggest the 69 position. It's wonderful. Start by doing him first and maybe that will open him up. You can't be afraid to express your sexual fantasies with the man your supposed to be in love with.
2007-03-20 11:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by sweetstlouis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OS, as you've so quaintly call Oral Stimulation, is entirely a personal preference. It has nothing to do with taste and being squeeky clean. One of my early GF's didn't want me messing around down there.
However, she thoroughly enjoyed riding my thigh in a warm shower for two. I could see that it was her prefered method, so OS was out for her. She never had a problem with OS with me because that was just a special present for me, just like her thigh ride was for her.
Have your friend find another way. She needs to talk to her new husband to work it out, not her sisters.!!!!
2007-03-20 11:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure YOU aren't the one that won't go down on his wife. Sounds kind of strange that you are asking the question. She should be discussing this with her husband and not YOU. Unless of course you are the HUSBAND.
2007-03-20 11:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to talk to him about it. How iwll he know if she doesn't say anything? I don't think cheating for sexual reasons is acceptable, but it's even worse when you do it because of a reason that the husband was never told aabout.
2007-03-20 11:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't like it, just like some women don't like it. If all else is well in the marriage then I feel she should be happy. So many other things much worse than that could afflict their marriage.
2007-03-20 11:19:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is one of the problems that is avoided by having
pre-marital sex....
She is just going to have to make more of an effort
to get him to give her what she wants...
It may come to a point where she will have to divorce
him and find a new man..
No point in living your life without sexual satisfaction...
2007-03-20 11:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
she needs to talk to her husband about it that's a personal subject she shouldn't tell every body her sex life
2007-03-20 11:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are all you people doing in her sex life. She should be dicussing it with her husband not all of you.
2007-03-20 11:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋