see i have to go to court again tomorrow about my childsupport. My kids dad has a court order to pay one amount and he is currently working, he is now behind in his childsupport and owes my kids(2) about 7 grand in arears, he doesn't even pay half of what he is court ordered to pay. let me add that he quiet his good job that was paying him 18+ a hour job because of his own personal reasons.we went to court last year and the judge was going to send him to jail cause he was to bring 2 grand to court an he didn't now i went 8 months without him paying anything after he queit his job the 1st time,we was in court and i told him that i would ask the judge to give him a chance since he had just gotten that new job only if he would get the kids evey other weekend and some during the summer.mind you my kids have not seen their dad since aug. of 06 the, he only got them 2 times and 1 of the 2 i had to make him get them wich i hated but i wanted to let him see that he has to be a parent too.
2007-03-20 04:07:57 · 8 answers · asked by kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kitty, hold his feet to the fire. If he doesn't want to be a good dad on his own, let the court make him do it. The man fathered these kids. He has to accept responsibility for them. To quit a high paying job for any reason is morally unconscionable when there are children dependent upon that money. Don't cut him any more slack. Let him pay, or let him go to jail and think about it for a while. The kids are what is important. Don't lose sight of that!
2007-03-20 04:23:18 · answer #1 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court will make whatever financial decisions they can, based on the simple facts. Can you ask that his child support be taken directly from his paycheck? That's how things worked for my husband (not that he ever didn't pay, anyway - it just cut the communication out of the whole thing).
I think it's good that you are trying to encourage him to be a parent - not for *your* sake, not for revenge of some kind, but for your kids' sake. Some people, men & women, just need to be told that they *can* do this, that it's a good thing, and that you support them in this (regardless of any interpersonal issues the two of you may have).
This is especially true of men, who have been raised to believe they don't have the ability to nurture, that society doesn't support them in their right to really parent, that they might as well just give up.
2007-03-20 04:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force a parent to be a parent when they don't have the balls to being so.
he sounds like a real low life father. Why push him to be a dad he's not. Sounds like he's just a sperm donor.
All you can hope for is for the judge to make him pay. OR have him put in jail. It's really up to the judge.
You should get his tax returns. All you can hope for honey is something drastically hits him in the head and he wakes up to his responsibilities.
2007-03-20 04:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take him back to court tell the truth and let them decide whats going to happen i think a few days in jail might wake him up to the fact that divorcing your spouse doesn't mean dropping your kids
2007-03-20 04:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by patbgone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge will not rule in your favor, he will rule in the kids best interest's. There is guidelines they go by, and, he will do something to him (probably not what he wants to but has to). I am a father paying child support, and i am behind, but it is because of job issues (4 weeks with no check) and the fact that one child is with me and i still pay. good luck, but remember, it isn't about you, it is about the kids.
2007-03-20 04:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't worry about the judge there are guidelines as to how much the father is to pay .He has to pay even if he doesn't see his kids.Its his financial responsability.hopefully he will get what he deserves and you will get your support plus arrear payments. Good luck.
2007-03-20 04:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by kar3eok 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there; done that.
There is nothing you can do to make this man accept his responsibilities. Do not waste your time and energy.
Give the judge or your attorney the facts they need. The law will take care of the ex.
Forget trying to make him into a caring parent.
2007-03-20 04:13:23 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
doesnt matter about the judge really, the court has set guidelines and formulas for child support,, the judge will start to garnish your ex wages from his job,
2007-03-20 04:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋