I want to love my wife like lovers do. My wife want to love me like all those lovers in movies and stuff do. but there is no love coming!!! what to do?
2007-03-20 03:51:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is not that we dont love each other. The question is how can we love like lovers do? How many of you love your spouse like lovers do? I doubt many un-married people are answering this question!
2007-03-20 04:41:29 · update #1
Well, I would have to say it is going to take some time. Start really making a big deal of all the great qualities that each of you had. Make special dates that are focused around romantic activities...it will come. I didn't love my husband at first, but I love him now more than I ever thought possible to love any one person. You two are just going to do things a little backwards. Maybe start dating. You probably missed out on that since your marriage was arranged. Maybe even sleep in different rooms for alittle while. Treat eachother like you are just starting to date...I think the love will come.
2007-03-20 03:58:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you're asking.
If you are both kind to each other, and share your life together, you will grow the kind of love that you say in older couples, a warm caring comfort with each other.
I take it this is not what you mean by 'lovers in movies'.
I guess I'm not sure if you mean passion or sexual desire. Though there's a big overlap.
So hey, work on the sex side. Try new things if you're comfortable with it, both of you work out if you don't, try to dress well, learn to tease each other, learn to pleasure each other. See if you can't get to the point where you look at each other and think of all the sensual things you've done, and might do that night.
It can't hurt.
2007-03-20 16:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love comes in all sizes, shapes , and colors. Focus on what makes you both special as a couple! Find her inner beauty. Communicate and be honest with each other. No person is perfect and relationships are hard work. You just have to believe in yourselves and make happiness a priority. Dreams can come true! good luck.
2007-03-20 11:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by LeAnne H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try playing 20 questions!!!you ask 20 then she does and that way you become friends and are able to know more about eachother ona higher and deeper level.once you have gotten to know each other maybe your relationship can grow more.i fell in love with my best friend and we used to hate each other until we started to ask each other things and understand each other better now we are the perfect couple and spend 3 hours on the phone at night!!!
once you actual;ly know each toher the tension will ease up.
2007-03-20 10:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by mitisyonie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling and help to learn how to fall in love with each other. It is really hard to learn to love someone if it does not come naturally. Good luck to the both of you with all of this.
2007-03-20 11:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why anyone would marry someone they are not in love with. For any reason. Hopefully with time you will come to love her. If not I'd get a divorce , you shouldn't have to spend your life in a non-loving relationship. If you don't believe in divorce, then the best of luck to you. Life is too short to go through it in a loveless relationship.
2007-03-20 11:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lori F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People who love each other arrange to marry one another. You, however, arranged to marry someone you did not love. If you had a goal to love the person to whom you were married, you went about it the wrong way.
2007-03-20 10:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 her and get 2 know her. Find out what she like and use it to build up the relationship.
2007-03-20 12:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by Thanh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and do as mcu thing as you can together talk to her all the time, try and know what she like and what she does not like tell her storied about you childhood. Make plans go on vacation, all tis may help.
2007-03-20 10:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on it...
You can probably make it happen in time as
long as both of you make an effort..
2007-03-20 10:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋