my final push to leave was i met this incredible guy..
he says he doesnt want to see me anymore until move out (like 10 days) but i want to see him b4 then... ?
2007-03-20 03:49:31 · 18 answers · asked by SGPearlGirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're getting divorced for the WRONG reason. Don't ever do it for another person!
2007-03-20 03:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have some issues you need to deal with. You aren't even out of your previous marriage/house and already have an 'incredible guy." My guess is that at some point in your life you thought that your current husband was your "incredible guy." What happened? Is there any chance that you can work things out...because whose to say that the next "incredible guy" isn't going to become the next ex-husband? There are too many divorces in this world...try to make it work. Marriage is tough, but with dedication the spark can be refired!
2007-03-20 10:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by AdoptiveMama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up. The bridge out of the marriage is never the guy you will end up with.... so know that leaving. If your marriage is hopelessly over, you would do well not to see this guy until your divorce is well along..... you many come out far less ahead if you do. And slow down a bit hon.... no guy is as incredible as you may at first think he is... rein in your hormones.
And, now.... so what is your question???????????????
2007-03-20 10:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you involved with another man before you are even out of the house? Why are you letting a relationship with another man influence your decision to leave your marriage? You should be leaving because of issues between two people...you and your husband.
Maybe this guy realizes that it's wrong for you two to be together and he at least wants to wait until you have some type of separation from your HB. Why can't you wait 10 days? Where are you going (or he going?) that you can't wait?
My advice: Get your own place, clear the air in your own mind, and get your self back on track before you get involved with another man!
2007-03-20 10:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy turns out to not be so fantastic, will you still be glad that you got a divorce? Make sure that you are not leaving your current husband only to be with this other guy, make sure that you are leaving because it is over... with or without this new beau!
If it is meant to be 10 days is a blink in time...
2007-03-20 10:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is almost impossible to read two chapters of the same book at the SAME time. You need to wait until you are NOT married anymore and NOT living with your soon to be ex-husband before you try to start something new with someone else. Old wine mixed with new wine nevers tastes good.
PRIORTIZE!
2007-03-20 10:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to respect his wishes, you have to look at things from his perspective because let's face it, a lot of people going through divorces do end up getting back together or staying together. This guy is merely trying to make sure you're being serious for his own sake...
2007-03-20 10:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by BRWNEYES 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't wait 10 freakin days?
I already know a big part of why you are divorcing. You are all about you, all about now now now. You won't succeed in any future marriage either, unless you grow up.
2007-03-20 10:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by Disco Stu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And how long will it be before you tire of the new incredible guy and he becomes the one you're wanting to leave?
2007-03-20 10:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He already is trying to control you hon so dont let him and dump him and move on with your life. If he is this controlling now imagine what he will be like down the road later. Dump him NOW!
2007-03-20 11:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋