I have been married to my husband for about 2 yrs now and had been dating 1 yr before we married. He has children from a previous relationship (who he did not marry) and his family at first could not stand her. His ex made my life miserrable for the first year and still continues to do so, by not letting him see the kids and so forth,
Here recently about a yr ago his family started hating me, being rude to me ...not talking to me. Saying that it is my fault why he doesnt see his family and kids. And well she had been more involved with HIS family so now they are in total love with her...Why do you think that??? What would you guys do in this situation
2007-03-20 03:31:03 · 5 answers · asked by Gizelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont have anything to do with the visitation with his children...I have done my part, but she refuses to let ME pick them up and she prefers to have communictation with him instead of me...when her and I work down the street from each other and get off at the same time. Another issue ...SHE IS NOT A THREAT to me at all...but she tends to talk about me to his family...bad stuff and tries to make his kids think the same as well...SO there is the problem she hasnt moved on and I think until she does...trhen she will stop being an immature *****.
2007-03-20 04:27:56 · update #1
Sounds to me like the in laws don't think that anyone is good enough for their son. They didn' tlike her, until she was out of the picture, now they don't like you. Was he a mommies boy? Sometimes if they are, the family just thinks they need to look out for the son the entire life. My husband wasn't a mommies' boy by choice, but that is how it was for us. My husband was engaged to another girl before me, and his parents couldn't stand her. We are from a small community and while he was with her they kept telling him how much they thought I was a good girl for him and that type of thing. Well due to problems (not his parents) with the previous fiance they broke up. We started dating (again not due to his parents) and once we were married they don't like me! No one is good enough for the son!
I would just keep loving your husband, and nice the in laws to death! Don't give them a reason to not like you...make them look bad by being nice to them...then it is totally on them and people will be able to see it.
2007-03-20 03:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I can't fathom how her not letting him see his kids is making you miserable? I think the biggest problem here is that he has a very poor relationship with his children. The two of you should be doing everything you possibly can to pursue visitation/custody legally, even if you have to take out a loan to pay a good attorney. If you can't or won't support him having or pursuing a relationship with his children, then you need to leave him, because his kids deserve much better. If the in-laws see you fighting tooth and nail to help your husband restore his relationship with his children, they will probably come around. Fact is that the in laws should be the least of your concerns right now.
2007-03-20 10:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, hon,your husband needs to grow some balls.....and he needs to stop sharing his problems and business with his family if he doesn't want their meddling..... he needs to learn to shut the hell up if he wants them out of his business...He and he alone needs to tell them "love me, love my wife, or we won't be part of your lives". He needs to make it perfectly clear that his decisions are his, and they abide by them or he will cut off communication with them. And he needs courts to make sure that he has the parental rights to see his children. And how you or anyone gets a guy to up his testosterone is tough.... it requires something of a personality change, and those don't come easily.... it requires some training....Since hs family is interfering with his life, it is because he is sharing the problems with them..... a sure sign of immaturity. And for sure, he will require a few sessions in counseling on assertiveness to be able to change this behavior pattern. Right now you are married to a wimp, if any of this is as you say it is. And unless he sees that, and sees that he can indeed change it, you're stuck with an abusive set of in-laws.....
2007-03-20 10:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are u letting them abuse u and where is ur husband in all of this avoid them this is bordering on harrassment u and ur husband should seek counseling together these folks have major issues before u have children of ur own to bring into this mess work out htis with a counselor if ur husband doesnt agree give this marriage some serious thought it will not get better only worse unless he stands up to them
2007-03-20 10:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be really mad. But the best thing to do is to remain calm about it so that they see you're the right one and she's wrong.
2007-03-20 10:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by willowrose24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋