Are humans meant to have 1 partner?

Question

I read so much on here about husbands/wives,boyfriends/girlfriends cheating.Maybe it's really natural to have more than ! partner?

Answer 1

Some people are cut out for only one partner, some more.

With men cheating 60% of the time and women 40%, I don't think it's for the reasons people assume (just sex or for the thrills, etc).

In fact, I assume that, contrary to social opinion, monogamy isn't normal for all people. Unfortunately, society isn't accomodating to those who want to be both honest and are not naturally monogamous. Open relationships are seriously frowned upon.

Most guys or girls don't cheat to get sex. It happens, but not to most people, IMO. Most fall into a relationship unexpectedly and only have two options they see open to them. Leave the new relationship, which is brutally difficult, or cheat. Society has shown them only those two choices.

I am polyamorous. I am very open about my feelings and non-monogamous nature. I always make certain everyone involved is aware and OK before I enter into a relationship (their significant other, if they have one, and my wife). Though sex is a component of these romantic relationships, it's no different than anyone with a girlfriend or wife. They are long term and very loving relationships.

For those who are not monogamous, but not interested in long-term romantic relationships (i.e. sex is the more important aspect) and want to be open and honest with their partner, there is swinging. I"ve never experienced it, so cannot talk about it much.

I've had the opportunity to be in a relationship with several women that would have been happy to cheat with me, but when they found out I get an OK from my wife, they wanted nothing to do with it.

I've always wondered why people find cheating (secretly breaking the rules for personal advantage or gain) more acceptable than open and honest non-monogamy.

Answer 2

On the contrare, we humans are meant to have a monogamous relationship with one person - hence why marriage is so befitting. Having more than one partner tends to lead to emotional and mental heartache, as well as the physical complications involved: unwanted pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, STDs that cannot be cured, and now studies are showing that having multiple partners can pose a greater risk for the HPV virus which leads to cervical cancer in women. It's also a noticeable trend to see a lot more co-habitating couples breaking up without even bringing up the subject of marriage. Usually one person is hoping to get married, while the other just views the co-habitation as an incentive to take advantage of the other person without an ounce of commitment.

Answer 3

I think we arent. Like you said people make life long commitments to someone they either cant stand in 10 years or are no longer sexually attracted to. If we were free to be with whomever we chose, whenever we chose people would be a lot less uptight and families may actually stay together, because there wouldnt be unrealistic boundries set. If that makes any sense to you, get ready for an uproar =)

Answer 4

It does go against nature. Although there is no definitive, we can look at cave man clans as what our nature was meant to be.

They lived in small family groups led by a dominant male who impregnated the females in his clan. This ensured his genes were passed on. Females did not seek partners, they reproduced and watched kids.

Not reasonable in today's society, though.

Answer 5

The one partner thing can work but most people out there are not in relationships with perfect people or their "soul-mate". We all feel attraction to others, the trick is in being strong enough to not to act on them. If you are willing to cheat on your significant other then it seems to me that on some level there is a problem with your relationship. Cheating happens because the people that cheat want it to.

Answer 6

It might be a natural instinct to be with more than one partner. But just because it's natural, doesn't mean that's the way it's supposed to be.

Sometimes it feels natural to choke the s hi t out of someone. That doesn't make it right.

Answer 7

You choose the path in life you think is best. Personally, I think monogamy is the logical choice.

One has to decide whether one wants a string of shallow relationships or a lifelong partnership with one person.

What is it you "seek?" Or rather, what is it you seek to "avoid?"

Do you just want sex with a variety of different women?

Do you shy away from the concept of commitment?

There are plenty of married folks that are quite happy, and plenty of single people that are miserable.

You get out of life what you put into it.

Answer 8

If you want to play the field, stay single and uncommitted. Sound like you need to do that. Cheating happens because of deep character flaws and looking for answers in the wrong way. Humans are inherently monogomous. It's the way our Creator (most people believe in a creator) meant for us to be. It our mutual seeking of happiness, there are many paths we may take. The straight and narrow path will not be the most exciting one, but ultimately will lead to the most happiness.

Answer 9

I don't think it's necessary that humans have only one partner. BUT it is never OK to LIE to the partner you are with about your faithfulness. You must be open about your polyamory.

Answer 10

Serial monogamy. Google for the time era "seven 12 months itch." truthfully, it is closer to 4 years. a woman is drawn to a guy long adequate to have one infant and elevate it previous infancy.