im due in 2 wks and i keep hearing all these horrible stories about how bad and miserable its going to be when he is first born because i will never get any sleep and i will never get a break and blah blah... i know that it all depends on how your baby is, and that most babies wake up a lot during the night but is it really THAT bad?
2007-03-20 03:10:33 · 23 answers · asked by deceptions 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Honestly sweetie, I didn't think it was that bad. I really wanted to be a mommy and never once during the night that I was up with my two children did I ever think of complaining. I actually was thankful when they woke up for a feeding, that was the only time of day that I had my babies all to myself. My husband is an electrician, so because I value his life, I didn't let him get up in the night to care for the children. I have to tell you, it is the most amazing thing when the lights are dim, and there are no other distractions around, and all that is there is you and your baby. He/she looking up and you, and you being able to look back at him/her. I believe that is when the most connection comes between baby & mama out of the womb!
2007-03-20 03:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, people used to tell me your life will never be the same. And get your sleep now because you won't after the baby is born. I feel like my life never drastically changed, once my son was home it felt like he was always around and like he was always here. Yes you go through some sleepless nights but you do it and you get through it. Not a big deal. Nothing is miserable or bad when it comes to taking care of a baby that you love sooo much. The only thing that seems a bit hard is when your a first time mom you might not know everything when something is wrong with your baby......The only thing I have to say is enjoy it as much as you can because they grow fast!!! My son is already 6mo old and doesn't seem like a baby anymore!
2007-03-20 05:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by KDB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No!, This is a time you will never get back and it will leave so quickly. Just do yourself a favor sleep when the baby does. Do not worry about the dishes, as they some how always manage to get done. The laundry will wait another day or until daddy does it. I never felt so exhausted that I could not function. I slept when I could during the day to make up for the sleep I lost but treasured all the cuddle time I got with all of my kids. Good luck and do not worry about what others say as know one really remebers what it was actually like.
2007-03-20 03:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Tawni B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, yes... The first couple months can be a tough adjustment! Luckily they go by in a blur.
Get as much sleep as you can while he's asleep, including cat naps during the day. Don't bother with cleaning or cooking beyond what you need to keep you and baby clothed and fed. Take all the help that your friends and relatives are willing to give. Hold on to every ounce of patience you have. And remember that no matter how much the baby cries and aggravates you, he doesn't know better, and you'll soon have a wonderful time once he's a little older.
2007-03-20 03:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didnt think it was bad at all. But then again I waited 13yrs between my children and was ready to do it all over again. You will get a break that newborn sleeps mostly all day except when it wakes up to feed. I never understood how moms of newborns say they dont have time to clean, bathe or whatever. I did, I did it while he slept. If you get to tired just take a nap or two in the afternoon while the baby is sleeping. Its not bad I promise and you'll love every minute.
2007-03-20 03:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. Sure you are going to be sore and tired, and the first couple of weeks will be strange and baby will need you a lot, but you are so focused on little one's needs, you barely think about it. You'll be tired, but happy. And soon things settle down, you get to know each other, and get settled in a routine that's good for both of you. Honestly, the joy and love you'll feel, will be far bigger than any negative. Try to breatfeed if you can, no making up milk, warming it, sterilising bottles etc. etc. That is all time you can spend sleeping or cuddling your little one. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-03-20 03:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by sins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not that bad rtrust me.
You do make mistakes with the first one but who doesn't ?If you do not havea mother to help you out the first month get a friend. and learn to take short naps when the baby is taking one take one if the housework doesn';t get done so what the baby is ok that is more important than dustbunnies. the time goes by so fast the baby will be sleeping thru the night before you know it so relax and enjoy it mother of three
2007-03-20 03:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Elaine F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't that bad with my baby. I had a C-section when I had him, so I couldn't move around too much. He mostly ate and then went back to sleep for the first 2 weeks. A piece of advice I can give you is to sleep when the baby sleeps that way you can have the energy you need when the baby gets up. Good luck!
2007-03-20 03:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look I'm not going to lie, sure you are going to be tired *duh* but really it isn't that bad. And most people who don't "expect" their babies to sleep through the night, never cry and never impact their lives. Those who expect that their life rightly will revolve around their child for a time, these people do well and do not WANT a break. They get enough sleep even if it means that the tub doesn't get washed every week or that hubby does the laundry -wrong of course.
Just accept that things are going to change and be flexible and you will do great!
2007-03-20 03:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not as bad if the father helps out too. for me it was not bad at all either my husband took the first part of the night caring for the baby or i did the first part while the other could sleep. but fortunately she has been sleeping through the night for about a month and a half now. (she's 4 months). good luck.
2007-03-20 03:24:16 · answer #10 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋