That is if you are still sexually active yourself and not too old. Let's say that your age would be between 35 and 55 and you still very much need it.
2007-03-20 03:09:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes of course. that is why married people should take their vows seriously. I love my husband to death and I know he would do the same for me.
2007-03-20 03:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't have sex on the side. I think it would be very disrespectful to him(even though he gave permission), myself, and our child. Plus, as others have said, i made a promise to be with him through sickness and in health. I didn't marry him for sex i married him because i wanted us to grow old together. Even when all the "thrill" of being young is gone we will still be able to make each other smile. That's why I'm with him... good sex is just a bonus. So again, no i would not agree to sleep with other men because my husband became impotent.
2007-03-20 03:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissilicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy comes in all shapes and forms, and just because he cant get an erection, doesnt mean you still cant be intimate....just laying naked next to each other is intimate.....penetration is only a small part of the whole intimate/sex process.......There is kissing, fondling, whispering, touching....thats all a part of sex too, and unless my husband lost his hands, then I certainly would not contemplate sex with another man. If there is no love between the man and me then, I may as well masturbate, because sex with a stranger would not satisfy me. There has to be love....I have to see the love in my man's eyes for the sex to be stimulating for me. My man and I dont have to have sex to be totally satisfied. Hands and fingers can sometimes be a wonderful alternative to actual penile penetration.
Just think very carefully before you take that step....maybe you can do it....maybe you need the actual penetration to satisfy you, but for me, the penetration, while it is wonderful, its not the be all and end all to sex. Intimacy and love is what will bind you together and without love I couldnt have sex with anyone...but thats me....you have to decide if you can be satisfied without the actual penetration, and if you cant and your husband loves you enough to allow you to be satisfied outside the marriage, then maybe you love your husband enough to only use a man for sex, but keep your real love for your husband. I dont know if any love is strong enough to endure that....maybe yours is.....good luck.
2007-03-20 03:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, wether people realize it or not when two people become intimate, there is a strong chance that feelings will surface. What started out as "just sex" could very soon become, "love"...I would explore other ways that the two of you could be intimate together, there are other options, toys, etc...but no I would not go that route unless I was actually going to end the marriage because no one will win in that type of situation....
2007-03-20 03:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by BRWNEYES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not do this to him and to my marriage. I would stay true to him and my vows til death do us part. God is still watching you know and he knows if we are doing right or wrong by our marriage and husband and or wife. I believe that you are to stay true to just that person and no one else involved till death do you part! Having sex with other people outside of the marriage is just wrong and should not be happening at all. It is sinful and leads to alot of problems and even possible stds and unwanted and unplanned pregnancies. JMHO! He would play with me with toys and oral and that would be just as great lol. You can do creative things other then cheating and being unfaithful .
2007-03-20 03:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I love my husband very much and I didn't marry him for the sex. I married him because of who he is, how he treats me, and we get along great together. I think that I could live without that before I want to live without him. Besides there are other ways to express your feelings.
2007-03-20 03:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would if I knew my husband was truly ok with this and my sex drive was still very strong.
Yes the emotional attachment makes sex better but I would settle for the no emotion variety if the lover is handsome.
2007-03-20 03:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by Momma K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, even if he said it was okay I know that deep down that would hurt him and I wouldn't ever want to do that. Besides if the tables were turned and it was me with the problem I wouldn't want him to be with someone else.
2007-03-20 03:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by Trisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm....that would probably destroy a man. It's bad enough he can't have it (even though he really does want it) and then to know his wife is out there havin sex....
There are lots of toys out there...get some, have fun together.
2007-03-20 03:21:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I would just find other means of taking care of my needs. Like toys and fingers. I wouldn't even if he said it was ok.
2007-03-20 03:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by live, love, laugh often! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋