how hard is it with 2 chidlren? finanaces. multiplying love...?

Question

i have an almost 9 month old son and we are going to try and have another baby. our son never changed my life as dramatically as everyone else said it would. it just fell into place? how hard is it for you with two children emotionally financially. just overall everything. kids are my life so will it be just as easy to fall back into place (my life) with two children

Answer 1

I just recently had my second child and I got pregnant with him when my daughter was 9mths. So if you are pregnant now your son will be about my daughter's age. It just sort of feels the same. I love spending time with both, but with my daughter I would sleep when she did when she was little and I can't do that with my son because my daughter is up and you have to make sure she doesn't get into anything. By the way, my daughter is 19mths now, and my son is almost 2 months now. You sort of just automatically love the other but its a different love. You love your son because he was your first and this one, if it is your last, you will love differently because its your last. It is a different love, but the love is still strong. My husband and I found that if your first baby isn't potty trained its pretty hard because diapers are EXPENSIVE! My daughter is still in diapers, although I try to potty train her, and then we have my son, who is a newborn, so of course he is in diapers. But the most important thing to remember is that NEVER not in a million years tell the other u love them more!!!!

Answer 2

Having two kids isn't as easy or hard as everyone may tell you. Yes its a drain emotionally because you do get stressed out. When it comes to the whole emotions here's a flag- when either one of you need a break let that person have it.
With your 9 month old be prepared for some jealousy. That will also wear on your nerves believe me have a 11 month old and a 3 1/2 year old.
Financially, its a strain especially if there's only one parent working. It takes two and whoever says different must have the other with a great job or has been sitting well their entire life.
Pretty much it really doesn't change much only now there are two little ones to love. When you think you don't have enough love to go around you find out different.
The only thing that changes is the amount of diapers you buy along with clothes.
Have fun and good luck if that's what you two want don't let anyone discourage you two from it. Children are a wonderful thing.

Answer 3

I had a child already when my husband and I were married. We then were pregnant within 3 months after being married. We moved to a new house when I was about 2 months preg. We were just getting used to a new house payment and property taxes(now that we weren't renting anymore). Plus trying to save for a new baby. We eventually got things in order. It just takes some time to adjust everything. If you know what you paid for with your first child, just start figuring that into your budget when you start trying for a baby. Put that money into a savings account so it is atleast taken out of your income. This will get you used to having to figure it in every week with your finances. Then when you do end up having another child, you will have some extra $ for new baby stuff or for emergencies. Emotionally and mentally it also takes a little time to adjust, and new things come up every week. My second child is almost 2 and I am still experiencing new things all the time. It's not an extreme adjustment. Just think of it as a change. I too enjoy children, so much that I now do home day care. Remember that children are a wonderful blessing.

Answer 4

I think it will be all right. I felt that I wouldn't have enough love for my son (my daughter is adopted, and means the world to us,) but I did. Seeing the baby that I grew was the most amazing thing. I have equal love for them, and we are expecting another.

The major expenses at first are diapers and food. If you breastfeed, then it's free! If not, you can use WIC or store brand formula and do just fine. My advice is to buy diapers now, a little at a time, and formula if that's what you're going to feed the baby. That way, by the time he or she comes, and you're not working full time (if that's the situation) it won't be such a hardship. Of course, as they both grow, they will become more expensive, but you will always find a way to manage. Good luck. I think you'll be just fine.

Answer 5

You sound like a great mother and if you start saving up money ow the finance thing may not be too overwhelming. Just pay extra on your bills when you can so it is not so hard on your husband once the new baby comes. It shouldn't be too hard. I have always heard the first baby is the hardest.

Answer 6

i have a 6, 4 and 2 year old....wow talk about time management...they all want to do something different, they all know things at a different level, they all have different tempers, attitudes.....
you really have to be a good mananger to accomplish many kids at the same time...
it is fun 99%^ of the time, but it can get pretty hairy
good luck

Answer 7

I have three children and I sometimes feel it's even easier then having one, We even plan on having one more.I feel having children is so fulfilling.Having more then one can be stressful at times but it is completely worth it.

Answer 8

it is rough emotionally and financially....try to keep working at least part time cuz when i divorced i had to take crummy jobs from being home so long and then the X is on easy street

Answer 9

It's all in ones attitude and you seem to have a great one!
This will get you through anything with your kids. Blessings!


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