away for the total time he is out of school. Keep in mind she abducted him 5 years ago to a foreign country and I went through the he$% of getting him back. It's a long story of how I agreed to joint legal and joint residential custody. Thanksgiving of 05, she denied my son and I that holiday together...Christmas she makes tickets weeks before, to take him out of the country for 25 days - 11 days out of school to her country, I objected so she takes it to court and the judge awarded her the trip and warned her that if she didn't come back she would be arrested, last Thanksgiving she makes tickets again behind my back to take him to Canada with her boyfriend, I object again for moral reasons and that I have him to make up for last year which she poposed weeks before - then she surprisingly denies that offer, contacts the judge with the approval of the Parental coordinator and gets his passport without my consent, now she has done it again this Easter claiming she is scheduled for this
2007-03-20 02:20:31 · 5 answers · asked by RealEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
says she is schedled to have him for this Easter Spring break - this is not in the divorce. It says "alternating major and minor holidays" Holidays are not defined as school times off. She has now demanded his passport, does not tell me where she is going and refuses to even discuss her interferrence of my time with him on my alloted time if she takes him for all the days of school break. I am certainshe once again has made tickets without discussing with me. She refuses to tell me where she is going and when she is coming back as I have always done with her. We used to arrange tickets together in advance before tickets were confirmed - this is the way it was before the boyfriend - now fiance - came into the scene. She will take him with this guy whom my son "cant stand this guy" subject him once again - like Canada - to the morals of her country and this new guy. Unlike the way he was raised for 8 years. She sems to not give a hoot about the affects it is having on my son. What to do?
2007-03-20 02:26:22 · update #1
A month ago we are in session with the parental coordinator for the first time in a year 2 years we are within close proximity talking - even though we spoke regularly on the phone until December of 05 - I express my worries and concerns about her having the boyfriend staying overnight with our son present in a small one bedroom apartment, she says, "what if we were married would it make a difference?" Two weeks later she announces her engagement to me "at M's (our son) insistency, I an informing you I am engaged" and then I learn of an impending marriage during the summer. She hid this guy out for several months up until last year after the second failed attempt of custody - denied by the judge - two weeks later, she brings the guy out of the woodwork that she had been seeing for several months before. I think the entire engagment/marriage thing is a sham....get married, relocate, get divorced and take my son again to her country - this time the guy is a Sr. VP of a bank -
2007-03-20 02:37:14 · update #2
This sounds much more complicated than you were able to put down here. Do you have an attorney? I am not sure if I would be happy with the way you were represented. Why if she kidnapped your son was she given joint legal and residential custody. This blows my mind. My ex husband is American and I am British living in America with my girls and the judge would in no way have allowed me to have done such things. Kidnapping is a crime punishable by law. How does she deny you holidays? Are your holidays not set up in your custody papers and if not then usually you refer to the guidelines for the state you reside in. I am not sure how old your son is but I'm not sure he should be missing so much school. Unfortunately with holidays we have to share every other with our children. But we are able to make it that our children get two holidays every year. Just because Easter is April 8th this year doesn't mean you're Easter has to be April 8th. Your son doesn't need to be caught in a fight. He should be allowed to spend holidays with his dad too though and for that reason you need to speak up for him. As you are the only dad he's got. I really would advise you to get a different lawyer or if you don't have a lawyer get one. You need better representation.
2007-03-20 02:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a GOOD lawyer and put a stop to this. So far it hasn't been fair but this time it sounds very suspicious. Do not let your son go until you get a lawyer and can see a judge.Good luck
2007-03-20 02:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COURT, thats all i can say. After abducting him i dont think that they are going to go much against you. Take her to court. The fact tha she is making all these huge plans is suspicous. id be worried. im amazed you did joint custody id have her behind bars.
i would say you need a better lawyer too.
2007-03-20 02:25:07 · answer #3 · answered by resqshanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard question for me and also I think she is wrong. As long as she comes back though and i hope she does. It sounds like there is nothing for you to do about it but keep going to the judge and trying to stop her.
I wish you luck and hope everything works out for you
2007-03-20 02:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep your response short. Its only a little matter. Remember that you are the one your son looks up to.
2016-03-16 23:25:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋