I want my wife to snuggle up to me in bed at night. Most of the time when I hold her she complains that its too hot or I am crushing her,etc. I sometimes think that if I back off and just stop trying to be close it might "reverse" things and cause her to want to snuggle and hold me close. What do you think? What is the best way to handle this kind of situation?
2007-03-20 02:20:08 · 8 answers · asked by Chewy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You all are going to have to compromise on this one. How about if you ask her to snuggle just for a little while, five or ten minutes, but then you have to let her go so she can sleep.
2007-03-20 03:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by MJV 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This brings amusing memories, because I've complained the same exact thing to my husband! But what my husband did for me is that he was very patient, and allowed me to find a comfy position to snuggle with him. I think I'm a bit "claustrophobic" because depending on how he hugs me, I sometimes feel like I can't breathe. So he lets me hold him or I lean on his chest to enable more breathing room for myself. It's the sweet part of marriage - trying to understand each other's likes and dislikes, and how to work your way around it in a respectful and loving manner.
Have you tried talking to your wife about how you feel? My husband had prayerfully done so, and it really made me more aware of his emotional and physical needs. Be honest, but don't be harsh. Love is patient and unconditional. And just to reassure you, we women do appreciate it when our husbands are open and honest with each other, especially when it comes to subjects like marital intimacy. God bless you and your wife and I hope this helps. Happy marriage!
2007-03-20 02:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first tell her that you need snuggle time. i tell my wife this all the time. she thinks it a great that a guy need snuggle time and yes there are those night that it is to hot for that. so just ask her.
2007-03-20 02:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife is a lucky lady. I wish my husband wanted to snuggle in bed.
2007-03-20 02:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beds a bad place to have any arguments...Back off some, not much, talk to her and explain that for some unknown reason you need that type of comfort and see how the two of you can change to make this and other things work in your marriage. Good Luck
2007-03-20 03:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm hard one..although im a women i do this with my partner it always seems hes doesnt want to know..
i tried waking up in the middle of the night and kissing him gently on the back of his neck or rubbing his neck then snuggling up for a cuddle and tellin him i loved him..it gradually worked..sorry if it isnt much help..
2007-03-20 02:24:25 · answer #6 · answered by liamsmum05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im usually the one who snuggles up with my partner before closing my eyes to sleep, but in your situation uhm i'd like to suggest this.. once you both lay down side by side, whisper to her your love, make sure she hears it thou and just sneak closer to her touching her lightly. make sure your face is near hers and give her a light kiss on the neck.
2007-03-20 02:30:16 · answer #7 · answered by tangerine b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOME PEOPLE JUST DONT LIKE TO SNUGGLE... IAM ONE OF THOSE I NEED MY SPACE TO SLEEP. SLEEPING TIME IS SLEEPING TIME... I DONT SEE THE NEED, SO STOP PUSHING HER. GRAB A PILLOW OR SOMETHING THATS WHAT I TELL MY BOYFRIEND...
2007-03-20 02:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋