I mean even though you love them, it's not the same as it use to be. How do you get that back?
2007-03-20 02:17:27 · 17 answers · asked by Mauki90 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'll go with the bike -riding guys answer....but you can't get that back I reckon. Roses die. So do honeymoons. But there are new roses all the time....in different gardens.
2007-03-20 02:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being like a friend is actually one of the best qualities of spouses. When you feel things are not the same as it use to be, that probably because you two starting to take each other for granted. Try not to forget the reason you two married in the first place. Also talk to your spouse openly how you feel about the relationship. Do not keep it to yourself, but share it. Make an effort to explain to your spouse how you feel the best you can and hope for the better. Love is not only an emotions, it is an attemp to keep the relationship new and alive. Always put yourself and your spouse in check. Never let the level of passion for each other go down.
2007-03-20 02:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
But...I thought that it was important that your spouse be like a friend. My wife is actually my best friend. I can confide in her and discuss any personal issues or things that are bothering me at work. The same goes for her. The lovey-dovey honeymoon phase is really long gone. Now seriously...aren't you grateful in a way for that too? Think of how awkward you both were then. You sometimes tip toed around one another and never questioned the other person at times for fear of making them angry or annoyed. not really sure sometimes how your spouse would react. Now you can pretty much read that person like a newspaper.
No my dear....you've become comfortable in your relationship and security has settled in. You may not have sex every night of the week like the old days but good Lord...who has the time or the energy? You have kids? That adds to the misture too when it comes to privacy.
So...what is lacking in your relationship that you feel this way? Communication? Sex? Staring at one another and just sighing? The magic is still there. push the kid(s) off on someone for the wekend. Or at least the day. Renew yourselves with one another...alone and in privacy. No phones ringing, etc. Its still there. You just have to rummage around, pull it out, give it a good shaking and dusting and you'll be surprised how well it still works.
2007-03-20 02:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk about it. Come up with a plan together. If that doesn't work, or won't work, go into marriage counseling. If he won't go, yuo go anyway - by yourself.
Everyone feels like this sometimes, but if that is the norm, you need to do something about it now, before it's too late. If you have done everything possible, you won't regret it later. Also consider getting involved in church, if you are not already. Church is good for relationships, and the counseling is often available for free.
2007-03-20 02:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all my husband is both to me and I would not have it any other way lol... He is my best friend BUT he also is my lover and wonderful and loving husband most of all! I have it both ways with him and i would not change it for anything. Friends last forever and so does true love. You get it back by falling in love with them all over again ... Try dating again or even counseling to learn how to if need be ... Good luck to you.
2007-03-20 02:45:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
surprise him with a weekend getaway relationships take work send him flowers pick him up for a quiet dinner leave him notes take long walks open up the communication line again how lucky u both are to have ur best friend as ur spouse so make each others day the most special once u get the hang of it he willstart surprising u
2007-03-20 02:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by mmbmw2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The honey moon phase doesn't last forever and count your luck your spouse IS your friend, that is when most relationships fail. If the honeymoon phase ends and there is nothing more the marriage falls on its face, but with love and the joy of spousel friendship it can last forever.
2007-03-20 02:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have been married 12 yrs. To me, I know my husband is my best friend. I love this man with all my heart, and I honestly do not know what I would do with out him. I think after you spend so many years with one person, you come to rely on him.(which is not always good). I don't know, I know he's my husband but he's also my best friend, and I don't think I want to change that. We both have other friends, but its like we spend 99% of our day togeather, because we don't want it any other way. Do you know what I'm saying?
2007-03-20 02:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by smurfie45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and that i did not initiate out as ideal pals, yet we've been given there interior of a year or so. i think of that became because of fact we've 3 little ones in 4 years and it became them against us. We had to unite!
2016-11-27 00:28:57 · answer #9 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come up to him and rub his back.
Make him a special dinner.
Plan a romantic evening in the bedroom.
Greet him at the door when he comes home from work, naked with a big red bow wrapped around you.
Go away for a weekend.
2007-03-20 02:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋