I live alone and enjoy it. I've devoted much effort to keeping my own company. So when I go out, why does the look of certain women still get me, like a punch in the heart? Their eyes, their confidant walk, coy smiles, the turn of a shapely leg?
2007-03-20 02:17:01 · 8 answers · asked by magic Murr. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You enjoy the peace and simplicity of living alone. You enjoy not having to deal with the stressors that make living with other people, and in society in general, a pain in the ***.
I too have lived alone much of my life. There is a certain serenity in it. A certain calm. But, there's also the unsettling "What if" factor.
It's one thing to be content. It's entirely another thing to be happy. You may want to ask yourself, and deeply really ask yourself.....
What are you avoiding by living alone?
Are you happy, or just content?
Why do you enjoy living alone?
Why did you first decide to live alone? (History tells me, that there was a stage in your life where you were not alone, and if I took a wild guess I would guess that you weren't very successful in relationships).
When you see these women, is it possible that they simply break through your defensive fortress or aloneness? Is it possible, you must inquire, that you want more than what you have, but you have exchanged the pain and effort of trying for it, with a contended existance of being alone?
Trust me. I too cherish being alone. I'm also buddhist, so I spend a great deal of my time alone. I'm not 28 years old, and have dodged relationships for nearly 3 years now. But, there is certainly that yearning...that uncertainty, that never ending desire....to desire.
I am deployed right now, and have long been asking myself the same questions that I ask you to ask yourself. I can't honestly say I have good answers. But, I will say, I'm a lot closer to the truth now, than I ever was before.
There is a saying, "If you want nothing, you cannot be harmed by anything".
Hurt, pain, and that endless caring....come from wanting something. You have to figure out what it is, and why it is that you want it, and then why it is that you avoid it, and work from there.
This is not a simple question. This is not one that anyone will be able to answer, except for you. You must answer this one on your own, not by asking on these forums for help, but by asking within yourself, time and time again, until you find the answers.
2007-03-20 02:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because 'no man is an island' even though you said you love your own company this does not mean that you cannot enjoy another person's. We, as humans were meant to connect with each other and from your post, what i see is a normal man being attracted to the opposite sex and that's fine.
2007-03-20 02:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by ann t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's completely normal, I think! You shouldn't avoid the possibility of meeting a woman and having a relationship(there are obviously many, many relationships two people can share)... you still have your needs and desires. Work is one thing... having a relationship and interacting with the opposite sex(or whomever one may be attracted to) is very important as well.
2007-03-20 04:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by paperflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a HUGE difference between dating and marriage, or even dating and relationships! You can still have a good, happy dating lifestyle while remaining single....there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Why are you putting this kind of pressure on yourself? Not every woman wants to get married.
2007-03-20 02:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because you are human, and straight, and that keeping own company has nothing to do with finding certain looks, smiles and types of legs attractive ;)??!
2007-03-20 02:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Biqo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still human and a guy so that is your answer. You are a normal guy and you are still going to be attracted to a pretty lady, no matter how much of a confirmed bachelor you are.
2007-03-20 02:27:14 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you avoiding women, relax we're people not rabi infested creatures.
2007-03-20 02:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Looking for the REAL answer! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are one lonely loser. get a woman unless you prefer a man
2007-03-20 02:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋