"White Stains" by the Computer. What should I do?

Question

I'm in a role reversal marriage. My husband stays home full-time and is a househusband and I go to work. He has been doing an outstsnding job with the housework and cooking! However, I'm noticing "white stains" by the computer on the chair and carpet. While he gets the housework done, he is not the best cleaner. He obviously is missing something. But more importantly, I know he is looking a pictures of women and surfing those naughty sites. What should I do? Should I leave him alone? I know staying home full-time is a tough adjustment for him.

Answer 1

I think its fine if hes looking at porn sites or whatever. Thats what men do best. But he should be a little more descret about things. Just tell him straight out what you have seen and ask him to please be careful how hes doing things.

Answer 2

Erotica is nothing more than an alternative form of arousal, and it is enjoyed by BOTH men and women alike.

As long as you are satisfying one another sexually and no one's needs are being neglected, your marriage is NOT in any way threatened by your husbands desire to view some erotica and pleasure himself.

For your enlightenment, in most mature, well-balanced relationships, people do not automatically "abandon" self-pleasure, just because they now have an unlimited opportunity for intercourse and oral sex.

Masturbation is not an "inferior" form of sex; indulged in due to the absence of other forms. It is a unique form of sexual pleasure; just like intercourse or oral.

Statistics show that up to 90% of the total male population masturbates, and based on data collected circa 1977 - 1979, 74% of married women masturbated; 16% of these women did so frequently.

In a 2007 survey conducted by The Gazette - a student newspaper - the results were:

1-3 times a week (M) 26% (F) 39%
4-9 times a week (M) 42% (F) 16%

Leading sexual educators such as Dr. Ruth and Betty Dodson will echo these same opinions and statistics (links below).

Regarding fantasy, Helen Fisher ("The First Sex," Ballantine Books, Feb. 2000) says that 71 percent of men and 72 percent of women fantasize while having sex with a partner. Men fantasize about conquest and domination, women about submission and surrender.

Dr. Joyce Brothers says, "It might relieve some of your guilt to know that many happily married individuals who have no thought or intention of ever betraying their spouse have sexual fantasies about someone other than their spouse."

Answer 3

For one thing, your husband needs to get reacquainted with the apron and clean up that stuff. As the breadwinner, you need to enforce if the housework is getting done. While he is doing housework, he clearly isn't cleaning up very well.

As for why the "white stains", you need to decide if you are comfortable with that. The fact that he is "stroking the rod" while you are toiling away at the office cannot be settling well with you.

I suggest flex a little muscle on this situation as the breadwinner.

Answer 4

Go onto your computer, and on the browser you should be able to go to tools and then Internet options and put a clamp on those types of sites and you should be able to have them password protested so he can undo what your doing. He'll find something else but you do need to have a sit down chat with him over this cause its the beginnings of something...good luck

Answer 5

Hand him a tube sock and tell him other people have to sit there ya know.

Answer 6

wow white stains i wonder what hes using to clean up

Answer 7

leave him alone, let him surf naughty pictures,, buy yourself some sexy lingerie and walk around the house with it on,

Answer 8

ya man as long as he stays home. and i do know you know what he is doing

Answer 9

HE IS A SICKO you should get him fixed