1.I've not spoken to my close female friend for 4 months as we got to close.I told her that I wanted no contact so that I could get over my feelings for her. She only wanted to be friends.WE WERE NEVER A COUPLE
2.1 month ago she sent a txt saying the friendship is OVER and for me to get on with my life.
3.A week later we met at a friends reunuion party,we spoke a lot but she looked hurt and uncomfortable. At the end of the night she hugged me tightly and said take care+we'll see each other on the group roadtrip.
4.Today I wrote her an email(via facebook,where we've emailed ech other a few times) asking if we're still friends(was confused as she said the friendship is over).
She wrote back saying:"Yes emailings great.Yes we are still friends. Yes, I'm very busy. Yes, I'm sure you are too xx"--WHY SO BLUNT/RUDE REPLY???
5.IS SHE STILL HURT AFTER 4 MONTHS(due to me wanting a break)??? Does she miss the attention from me(used to meet every 2 weeks)?
2007-03-20 02:01:15 · 22 answers · asked by sircrazydude90 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm glad she's not interested-neither am I(in that way)!
2007-03-20 02:08:48 · update #1
The emails only contained:if I cud add her to facebook+if we're still friends.No questions about herself!
2007-03-20 02:33:00 · update #2
sounds like things have changed since this 4months. have any new relationships come into it.
she prob got annoyed that you blanked her and she prob was flattered with you liking her. theres only so long a woman will wait and then they get bored and hurt with the rejection.
with you both seeing eachother again after those months prob got you both thinking how much you both missed eachothers company. she sounds like she still wants to be friends but shes prob busy at the mo with work or studies etc. try arranging to meet in a weeks time and do something non romantic such as bowling or ice skating etc. something that shows you want to be friends and nothing else.
i think you'll be ok with your friendship, on the other hand if you have regained a partner or the other way round, this might make things a little complicated. just meet occasionally and a few emails a week- not 100 a day.
good luck with your friendship
2007-03-20 02:13:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just have a feeling that she may feel that you are pushing to go back to 'being friends' with a hope of more and that she feels that she has already told you that the friendship is over. She is not going to ignore you in public, clearly but why did you email her? She isn't hurt. Shes not missing the attention. Shes worried you have misunderstood your chat at the reunion party because you emailed her again. You are making too big a thing about this. She won't speak to you at all next time, for fear of awkward emails. Sorry - I think you had your hopes up again and that's exactly why she was 'rude' if you can call replying to your email rude. Move on like she said.
2007-03-20 02:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by JENNIFER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you really expect? You told her you didnt want any contact with her! Anyone would be hurt. You offended her and now you have what you asked for because she has moved on and doesn`t need you anymore. A lot of men expect women to be "on hold"- there when you want them and dispensible when you don`t. This is ridiculas. Human beings have emotions, male or female and you can`t expect her to be hanging around waiting with baited breath for the day you feel ready to see her again. She`s hardly going to to do that now is she?? Why? Because shes not your PLAYTHING!
Lets hope you`ve learned your lesson and treat girls with more respect in the future
2007-03-20 02:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by illusivemissrowan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mr. Gambit here. If she is serious about your friendship she should admit it. If she has problems she could have asked you more time to get over her grief. What you could do is you dont be rude to her(as she might be facing stressful situation), but at the same time dont show your eagerness to be friends with her. There's no reason for her to feel hurt. If you want a break its absolutely your prerogative. Why should she take it otherwise? She is rude to you, to hurt you. She wants you to ask after her. And where is assurance that even if you do, she will be polite?
2007-03-20 02:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's moved on and still quite uncomfortable with you. I'd just stay more as acquaintances than being close pals again. All you need to know is that she is happy and well and that she has moved on from being your close friends. Just let her go. Only speak to her on the times you bump into eachother and don't make an effort of trying to speak to her. Clearly she is uncomfy and wants you to leave her alone but is too nice to say it to you. Be civil if you see her but if you keep wanting to email her or text her she will regard that as slightly stalkerish as I've had males be like that towards me!
2007-03-20 02:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this girl likes you much more then you realise. She is obviously was so blunt with you because she wants you to chase her. She most likely thinks that by pushing you away she can get you closer. It may be hard for her to say that she wants you because when you did get to close you pushed her away and she is afraid of the same rejection. It may be wise to either ask her her true feelings. If she refuses to answer, you have to decide whether or not you want to play games.
I hate to say it but just like when Harry met Sally - Men and women can never be friends as the sex always gets in the way. Therefore if you do not have feelings for her I would let go.
2007-03-20 02:11:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This happened to me. My male friend who used to say he was like my gay best friend except not being gay, suddenly said that 'to his detriment' he was going to cut me off. No explanation, he reckoned he didn't know himself and he broke my heart. There was never anything romantic in our relationship, neither of us wanted it that way. Anyway years went by and I only saw him once, where we bumped into each other, he said sorry and said he'd call but he didn't. He then bumped into my brother and said sorry to him and bought him a drink!( I had no way of contacting him at this point). Just as well, i was so angry he messed with my feelings. I then heard he was dying, I was still angry and to be honest didn't believe it as he seemed so messed up i thought it was attention seeking, he was only 23 at this point so thought so many illnesses are curable at this healthy age. Needless to say on the night of my engagemnet I got a call from another friend to say they'd heard he'd just died. I couldn't go to the funeral as we'd arranged to go away for a weekend to celebrate our engagement and couldn't change the flights. It was almost as if he didn't want me there. It was so hard to deal with.
I'm hoping my story has a moral and you guys don't end up like me and my (for at least most of his life) very dear friend did. Be friends, and make an effort to be friends.
Best wishes.
2007-03-20 02:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by charl203 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:48:46 · answer #8 · answered by ghalieh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id send her 1 more email saying that you miss her freindship and hope that she will stay in touch. make sure that you state that is only a platonic freindship that you are after. Tell her that you look forward to hearing from her but you will wait for a reply before you email her again as you understand that she is busy, tell her you dont want her to feel as if you are pressurising her but arent sure if she wants to stay in touch. Good luck, im sure she will be in touch if she wants to carry on your freindship.
2007-03-20 02:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by pinkkittenliverpool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.. sometimes gals dun usually tells guys that they like them secretly. gals juz enjoy d attention n wanted 2 have guys always by their side.. there's juz so much complicated things about gals that u should know. even if u only befriends wif dem. in diz situation, it seems that she's hurt bcuz u wanted 2 break wif her. juz ask her wether she truly likes u or not. if she won't confess anything, it's likely that she have a crush on u.
best of luck ;)
2007-03-20 02:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋