why do so many ppl have trouble making friends?

Answer 1

Some people have a hard time making friends because of the fear of being rejected. Whether it be romantically or just for a friendship. But, you have to get over that. You have to just be yourself and not 'try' to be someone's friend. If they want to be your friend, they will. Everyone can use more friends. Just go out there, be yourself and do things that you enjoy. Someone else who enjoys those things will show up and you'll hit it off.

Answer 2

There is no surefire method to making friends which makes it so difficult. The hardest part is not knowing how other people feel-whether or not they want to be friends with you and just what that entails to them. Without knowing others' desires/expectations, we can only take blind risks of asking other people to do things, confiding personal information, and asking about touchy subjects.-But we don't know how another person is going to react so we often don't risk it for fear of rejection. We might find someone friend-worthy but be scared that they don't feel we are friend worthy and we don't really want to find that out because we think it means "I suck."

I also think that many people are not consciously looking for friends. We may be at a point in our life where we would like to develop close friendships but they already have close friends or are occupied with other things. They just may not be aware that we are looking for friends and may not consciously reject us but not think we are looking for more than just a casual thing.

There are as many reasons as there are people for why people have a hard time making friends. You have to look at the individual person to assess the specific reasons.

Answer 3

I really think in today's world the word 'friend' is used too loosely. Many times a person you are with is just a person you are acquainted with and socialize with from time to time, but he/she is not really a friend. If we would get back to the ture definition of what a 'friend' is we would be careful to expect acquaintances to be more than what they are. A real 'friend' is a person who wont turn their backs on you, lies on you, jealous of you, misuse you, tell others your secrets, or judge you. A real 'friend' will accept yur faults, tell you the truth (for your own good) even when it hurts to do so, stand by you in bad times, treat you with respect. watch your back, share your secrets with only GOD, give you space when you need it, is not jealous of you, lead you down a good path in life, and love you when you're acting unloving. These are just a few attributes of what a real 'friend' is. But doesnt that tell you that most people we all know are just acquaintances-not friends. Think about it the next time you see someone introduces his/her new date' (someone they really dont know) as a 'friend'. Truly, the term is watered down and used too freely.



WHEN A PERSON FINDS A REAL FRIEND,
HE/SHE HAS FOUND A PRICELESS TREASURE!***

Answer 4

I have trouble making friends because I was never taught how.
Having friends involves work..maintainence yanno? Friends involves trusting and being trusted, some folks can go out on that limb. Making friends involves giving of yourself...some folks feel they have nothing to give or what they have is worthless..What i do in this scenario, is to make friends with them first..sometimes just not having to be the approacher is the ice-breaker

Answer 5

some people have problems making friends cos they don't like being used by others. how do u know that person u re going to be friends with is a decent person or a manipulative, getting advantage of people one?

Answer 6

making friends is harder than keeping them, because sometimes you don't know how to approach new people, what to say to them and what to do... sometimes it's because you don't know who to make friends with...

but all it takes is a bit of courage and a little risk... because you never know where friendships may lead you...

Answer 7

because some people are mental it is just hard