ok. so i see a bubdle of girls clothes on ebay going really cheap. the clothes are armani, versace, all good makes. the seller is from liverpool.
i asked the lady if the clothes were real or fake. i thought i should know before bidding on them. as liverpool is fantastic and well known for the fab bargains and clothes at the main market.
she replied really horrible saying that i offended her and not all scousers shop in markets and how insulting i was, and she would never buy her daughter clothes cheap.
that also offended me as i can afford real makes and i like markets. also offended other ebay members as some have to buy second hand because they cant even afford market ware.
she came back at me with abuse and that she was reporting me for offending her. she made really horrib comments about me.
who was in the wrong about the situation? i thought i was reasonable and had to ask anyway about the makes of clothes. was this insulting to ask??
2007-03-20 01:28:54 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
You did nothing wrong as far as i can see, you just wanted some information on the clothes you were about to buy which the woman should of wrote on the page because there are alot of fake clothes being sold either because the buyer wouldnt dare ask, or because they are claiming they are real.
Don't worry about it, some people are easily offended :]
2007-03-20 01:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by Black Magic; 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask!! Users on eBay are there for bargains and therefor you were asking whether the clothes were real so your know whether you were getting a bargain or not! Would you really want to buy from her now? Most eBayers would let you know no problem if they were fake because at the end of the day someone somewhere would buy it aslong as it is wearable, that's the most important bit. I love a bargain even if it is cheap and not the real thing, and as she is selling second hand it's not as if she has anything to hide......or is she? Email her of Yahoo answers replies and make her look like a fool!! Report her to eBay for sending you abusive emails!
You have, as a customer the right to know what you are getting so you are in the right.
2007-03-20 01:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by ~Kitana~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have made it perfectly clear in her advert whether they were genuine or not. She could have described them as 'faithful copies' or something. Since she didn't, you can be sure they were fakes, but that's not the point. You could have assumed that they weren't real, but you asked her a perfectly reasonable question, just to know for sure. She took this as an insult. She is in the wrong, not you! She sounds extremely defensive. She obviously has something to hide!
You need to put your side of the story, after her unjustified nasty comments about you. Put all this in the comments box, and let other people make up their minds. She sounds horrible.
In my experience, many people are using ebay to buy & sell fakes. I bought a DVD for my daughter for £5. I assumed it was a normal DVD which someone had watched & wanted to sell, but it turned out to be an illegal copy which I could've burned myself for nothing, had I wished. The feedback the person was getting was all very good; just shows people are quite happy to buy this stuff. I won't be so gullible in future.
Do NOT apologise to her - she will see it as weakness, and proof that she is in the right; it will make her worse. People like her aren't reasonable.
2007-03-20 01:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were not wrong for asking about the authenticity of the item. Please go to ebays message board http://forums.ebay.co.uk/forum.jspa?forumID=2000
Post your question there along with the sellers id so that people can check out the person for you,they are pros there and can tell if items are fake or real most times,And it would also be a warning for other buyers.
I doubt ebay will take anyaction agains you,should she report you,but should they contact you just send them a cpoy of the messages exchanged between you and the seller.
You would think that they have access to all your messages and would do a proper investigation but they are just lazy sometimes.
Good luck
2007-03-20 01:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ati 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you were bidding your good, hard earned money. Many people are easily offended about things that don't make a bit of sense. But then I'm almost insensitively dead to comments...so much so that I don't even know when I'm actually being insulted many times. I have found it's mostly good to be that way. It eliminates a whole bunch of problems with people, because you become a peacemaker more than a rebel. But it does make it harder to understand and/or sympathize in some situtations sometimes. Her reactions would definately make me suspicious of buying her merchandise! Stay clear.
2007-03-20 01:47:33 · answer #5 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel it was a legitimate question. There are so many people that will rip you off in an instant on eBay that it makes sense to ask a few questions. If the lady was so offended by you asking maybe she is hiding something. Now you have a choice to turn the other cheek or return the favor by making a nasty comment yourself. Be careful even though it makes you feel good temporarily your conscience has a way of making you feel guilty.
2007-03-20 01:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by answerman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I sell on Ebay all the time and in my descriptions I always ask the potential buyers to email me with any questions that I didn't cover. I would never feel insulted if someone asked about genuine. If I don't have a tag on a doll or an item I just say no tag but it looks like or whatever. Its up to the buyer to accept my opinion but I can't remember a time that a question made me upset unless they were trying to get me to sell after the sale. That isn't allowed and I told him so!
2007-03-20 02:08:02 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same experience too, this lad was selling 10x3 strands of Britney Spears hair. He said it came from his aunt who just happened to be passing the salon when she shaved her head. The pic of the hair looked like he had just pulled out a matted lump from his sisters hairbrush, when i asked if it was real he replied "didn't your mother ever tell you if you don't have anything positive to say then don't say anything at all". By that reply I knew it was fake and told him to donate the £600 some fool was paying to charity. I didn't hear back from him. Usually if the seller gets abusive you know there is something wrong with it.
2007-03-20 03:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by suckaslug 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it was not insulting to ask!! She was insulting though!! It seems like a reasonable question to me because ebay is unfortunately a site whereby people do attempt to sell items as non-fakes.
I suggest you do not bid for these items: Do you really want to be dealing with a person like this?? Let her complain - ebay will do nothing about it as they actively encourage people to check before bidding whether or not the item is what the seller claims it to be!!
2007-03-20 01:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were entirely within your rights to ask - fake stuff is a real issue on ebay. She sounds over-defensive so is probably a fake. YOU WERE IN NO WAY WRONG. Keep a copy of the email in you ebay inbox, just incase she reports you (she probably won't, but best to be safe). Her behaviour is unacceptable.
My only advice would be don't argue. Try to hold back - don't start an e-argument! They usually go badly and you'll probably regret your actions. lol
Good luck with it - ebay is mostly a good place.
2007-03-20 01:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by Mostly Happy Cat. I smile. ;o) 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋