to all single women cheating with married men- why do single women date married men?

Question

why do single women have affairs with married men- do you not feel guilty???... do you want to hurt the woman?

Answer 1

I for one don't .But you are putting the blame on the single woman.The married man is the one who is married.And if one says no I won't talk to you or date you he will find someone who will.
No I don't think they are trying to hurt the woman.She isn't the husband is.And maybe she hopes the wife finds out what a rotten man she married to.

Answer 2

Gibbygirl makes some interesting points, but they sound more like excuses and blame shifting.

Bottom line is anyone, male or female who is participating in an affair as either the cheating spouse or the lover on the side is to blame, period.

Sure, the cheating spouse (since women also have affairs) is knowingly harming his/her marriage. But the lover is doing no less damage. Knowing someone is married and continuing on in the relationship is selfish, period. It doesn't matter if you are the cheating spouse or the lover.

Trying to argue otherwise simply comes across as selfish and a double standard.

Why do people seek out married lovers? Many of the reasons provided above are valid. Many just want to get their needs met without having the commitment. It's like fast food. It satisfies, but is not healthy and can do great harm to those participating and those who are near to the participants.

I imagine some feel guilty. Others justify it by saying if their spouse would only keep them happy, etc.

Some use the argument that they deserve to be happy. While I don't deny that we all need some happiness, getting your happiness by knowingly participating in a hurtful act is not an acceptable way of seeking happiness.

If you believe that we deserve to be happy, then I have just as much right to be happy as you do. So if your car, or your house or your serious injury would make me happy, don't I have the right?

Of course not! So why would anyone think that they have the right to steal from and injure the betrayed spouse?

The only reason I can think of is that they are selfish.

The married participant in the affair is also selfish. In fact, they are really a lot alike in this regard.

Answer 3

Perhaps the biggest reason why women cheat with married men is because married men make themselves available. That is, married men prey on single women, either for emotional support or for extramarital sex. The women who become involved with these guys foolishly think these are loving relationships, when they're usually not. Understand that a single woman can't cheat with a married man unless he allows it. If your husband is cheating, you need to ask him why he does it? Does he feel guilty? Does he want to hurt you? These questions are better answered by him.

One more thing: The women who cheat with your husband are not obligated to you. They don't owe you an explanation at all. Your husband, on the other hand, does.

Answer 4

I think single women have affairs with married men because they don't want to commit to anything and married men are safe. I think its disgusting and its been done to me. Personally if I thought a man was married and he was flirting with me. I'd really go off on him. I don't know how these women don't feel some kind of loyality to other women and just say no, there are plenty of single men out there and karma is a *****. You might be the single one now but someday you'll be the women waiting at home for your husband who is out cheating. What goes around comes around.

Answer 5

What about the single men having affairs with married women? I know one who is!

Answer 6

Woman do it bc, they know there is no attachment and they know that the guy is not going to leave and want anything more of a commitment. I don't think that woman do it to hurt the one that is married to the man. It is selfish on both parts, but why blame the lady who is cheating, the guy is just as guilty if he is married for allowing it to happen. Remember he who is married has the control to not or to do the cheating and allowing such a thing to happen. Why blame the single gal she isn't the one who is married he is, he should be the one being punished.

Answer 7

My husband had an affair and his GF told me all about it. When I asked her why, this is what she said. They were just good friends, and one day, he went in for the kiss, and that was all she wrote. I said, ok, that explains the one time, the first time, but why did you drag it on for months. She said she really didnt know. She was single at the time, she liked him, the sex was good. I asked her if she ever wanted him for herslef, like to leave me for her. She said no. She knew he was never going to leave his family for her. She pretty much said she didnt have anything else better to do and he was alot of fun and a nice guy, so she said what the hell. Nice woman, huh? What a wh*re!

Answer 8

R U cheating with a married man??? Well if u r, ur a *****, if not & jzt asking a question, heres my answer:

Women who do that terrible thing are bitches. Why would they do that? Do they want 2 b the "other woman" of the man? They'll never get away with it, in the end the truth will come out. No matter how secretive they try 2 b, the truth will come out. BUT its not only the woman's fault, but also the guys, bcuz, why did they cheat on his wife? He's MARRIED, & marriage should last 4ever, I don't understand people, they get married then divorced, i mean what's the point, if u don't really love that person??? Duh!

Answer 9

It is about power. Easier to manipulate a married man, people get thrill from doing wrong, no worry that "man" is going to stay over night. Single woman can control environment and when to engage in sex.

Mostly power is reason woman gets married men, little bit of thrill and in some part a knowing that he is good enough to get someone to live with him. So "she" test runs him to get him to go to her "forever" because she is "better" wife.

Answer 10

on Jerry springer, they say the man says how bad it is to be married to his wife, also how the wife treats him,and all the bad stuff about the wife,he never says any thing good about her, so he has affair with this younger woman, and tell the lady how happy he is with her, and he says i.m going to divorce my wife, and marry her, so the women his cheating with, day dreams of being his wife, and wait,s for the day she will marry him, but he knows he has no in tension to marry the woman, and he lies to her for years, he,s thinks why should i get a divorce? he,s thinks i,m married and i have a Mistress, life is great, then he.s wife takes him to the Jerry springer show, they put him on a lie detector, he thing i,m smart i can pass it test it jest a machine, then the machine says he lied, then he says it wrong, then it says he lied a second to then he jets mad and so on then he says i love you to his wife,then the younger woman says you told me you love me and you were going to divorce your wife then he get in to more heat,then he loses both women. so she would feel like shame of doing the wrong thing she will feel like poor me,