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i have lost trust from my friend because i mad her mad...how can i win it back?

2007-03-20 01:16:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

8 answers

Hi there,

Trust is a funny thing; you can not just "win" it back. Trust is something that is earned over time. When there has been a breech of trust, not only does it take comming clean and accepting our individual contribution to the situation, but it also takes time. If you try to "pressure" someone back you can end up pusing them farther away. If your friend knows that you know you were in the wrong (I am assuming this since you mention that it was you who made her mad) give her time. She may or may not come around but again, that is something that you can not control. Hopefully, over time, as the friendship continues to develop trust will be restored. Sure, you can try to "be really nice" to them and buy them stuff but you need to evaluate why you're doing thatL: is it to get them to like you again or to help alleviate any guilt feelings you have because you know you were worng. It's a hard call, especially since details of what transpired are missing. In the, for me, trust can not be bought and sold like a commodity; it just develops and like anything worth cultivating, it takes time. I know this does not sound like too much help, sorry.

Cheers.

2007-03-20 01:31:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hey dear! this is one of the most difficult task one has to to do in his or her life...I can understand what you are going through as many of us face this situation...what I would suggest is...write her a long mail stating all your qualms and reasons behind your madness...make sure you don't end up penning down a bunch of lies as that would again drive her away from you...be yourself and write down the exact truth...let her know the bitter truth...let her hate you for that...but trust me...thats momentary....she would soon realize that atleast you are being honest in your confession...and that would again put you two together very soon...this is a time consuming process as trust once broken doesn't get constructed so soon...You need to have patience and if you are slow and steady in your act...success is your...goodluck!

2007-03-20 01:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Maybe they think like I do.

Do it once, do it again.

Some people do not and will not let them self be used or taken advantage of. All it takes for someone Mature is to be messed over once and they learn, and will not repeat the same mistake twice. if they do, its on them, and they deserve what they get by bringing it on them self. Contrary to popular belief, there are still some smart people in this 'ol world who learns from mistakes.

2007-03-20 01:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0 0

well...trust is the hardest thing to get back..once you've lost it, it's gone..they could forgive you but they could never forget..so the only time you could be trustworthy again is if they FORGET the time you were 'trust unworthy'..but you could always PROVE yourself..and let them know that you could be trusted and that thing you did was just a one time thing..for example..your friend told you a secret..you told others..which was purely accidental..first, APOLOGIZE..but even though no one cared about that secret..the point is you told others..which is of course wrong no matter how lame that secret was..as a friend, you should UNDERSTAND the fact that her secret was important to her...so..i suggest..you try..telling her a secret..and BEG her to tell you hers..and if that she finds out you told hers..you'd allow her to tell your secret to others..it's only fair..so again..to prove yourself..keep hers..so that she will keep yours..

what if's:
...she told yours as an act of revenge? then..she's a b*tch..but still..keep hers..at least YOU know you're trustworthy..

2007-03-20 02:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by First L 2 · 0 0

of path you mustn't be rude to her, i'm happy you do not evaluate it to be an determination. you could desire to have a verbal replace along with her approximately what she's feeling. tell her you like her very plenty as a pal, and you have observed she seems to be unhappy with you, and you could need to appreciate what you probably did that disappointed her plenty. be certain you're waiting to hearken to issues you do in comparison to, with out having indignant or disappointed your self. frequently men have not the slightest clue they did something hurtful, and girls every physique is undesirable approximately hinting around and not asserting issues right this moment out. Why do you think of she thinks you have been chasing her? And why might desire to that hassle her? And, in case you're only pals, why might YOU be troubled if she became flirting with somebody? you're actually not her boyfriend, she has no reason to not flirt with somebody once you're around. reliable relationships of any variety, be it boyfriend/female pal, pal/pal, husband/spouse, are in keeping with reliable communique. in case you could not talk with the different individual approximately issues, the relationship is especially plenty doomed. in case you could talk with a minimum of one yet another approximately issues in a rational, calm, way, you could fix maximum issues.

2016-11-27 00:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

try and be more careful, its a very important quality for relationships and valuable one...i suggest you apologize and show that youll be a trusting person, bold, and serious about the subject, and show that you arent playing around when it comes to trust...

2007-03-20 01:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If she is your friend be a biger person and talk!! to her you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You know that saying one day we will look back and laugh at this why wait
Good Luck

2007-03-20 01:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by nashmelb 1 · 0 0

well you know... it kinda depends what 'you' (hyperthetically speaking) did....

2007-03-20 01:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0 0

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