I met a woman at the end of December, got hooked straight away. On Valentines day she tells me there is somebody else, she met just before me and he's coming back, from where I don't know, she said she had to see him and resolve things.
I said ok I'm out. Since then she has got back to me suggesting she doesn't want our "thing", whatever it is, to end.
So I didn't see her for a month, the whole time I was thinking about her going to see this man. I did email her again to say I'm out, she emailed me back saying she missed me.
A couple of weeks ago I did call her up to ask her what the situation was, I felt like I was almost begging, she suggested it was none of my business, this greatly angered me. So the following week I wrote, maybe immaturely, to say what a waste of time it's been and what a fool I've been caring for her when she's been at her lowest ebb. She responded, very hurt, I apologised. We met for a drink, I'm still none the wiser, she seems very confused, what to do???
2007-03-20 01:14:42 · 13 answers · asked by crazy fool 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's stringing you along in the event her "other thing" doesn't work out. Don't waste any more time waiting for her to get un-confused.
2007-03-20 01:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just go about your life & cease all contact - it may make her realize that she lost a good thing in you or at the very least you will stop wasting your time on someone who doesn't share your feelings. it's OK - there are plenty of other women out there who will appreciate you. i had to do this with a guy who couldn't make up his mind about me. i let him go & ceased all contact. eventually he came back to me confessing that he realized he let a good thing go & he is now "playing by my rules" - which are mutual respect, honesty, monogamy & no game playing. i was willing to let him go though because i know i am worth more than he was able to give me the first time around - you should do the same - show her you have self-respect.
2007-03-20 02:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by born_free_again 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over this girl!! She is using you to her benefit whenever whoever this other guy is, is not around! Have more pride in yourself and show all your caring, affectionate manner to someone else who will wholeheartedly appreciate you!! You dont deserve this but you are being a fool to yourself by agreeing to meet up just because she seemed hurt!! Did she care if you felt hurt at any stage? NO! Its all mind games hun, please do yourself a huge favour and steer clear!!! GOOD LUCK XX
2007-03-20 02:27:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jaksi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's having you on, Dude. Just in case something didn't work out, she knew she'd have you dangling, waiting to jump back in.
Addicted? No. Infatuated? Yup. I know it'll hurt like hell for a while, but move on and find someone better.
She wants her cake and to eat it too. I hate those kind of users. Find someone new. You'll be happier in the end, even though it doesn't seem that way now. Things do get better.
2007-03-20 01:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi there
Looks like you bagged yourself a player here mate! They come in all shapes and sizes and contradictory to legend both sexes too!
Its still early on in the relationship so time to bail my friend.Trust me a better life with a better lady awaits!
Players just need to be ditched! its the only way they learn!
Regards
idai
2007-03-20 15:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by idai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give her her space. It sounds like she doesnt know what she wants, or she might want to keep you on the "back burner" in case something goes wrong with her other man. Be very cautious if she decides she wants to come back to you. More than likely from the sounds of it, it would probably be on a rebound situation. My advice to you would be to try to move on. But again, be aware, if you do move on, that is when she will probably try to get back with you full force. she wont like the idea of you not being her rebound anymore. hope this helps. good luck!
2007-03-20 01:23:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥shannon c♥ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sort out your own head first; I don't mean that in an insulting way. When your head is clear you will be able to make a better decision. Good luck!
2007-03-21 06:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you have to tell her that unless she makes up her mind, who she wants to be in a relationship, you'll assume that its a no-goer between the two of you.
Tell her that you really like her BUT your not prepared to spend months waiting for her to make up her mind.
It's the only way to give yourself peace of mind, otherwise your going to end up a nervous wreck.
Be cruel to yourself, to be kind to yourself in the longterm, Its hard but you deserve to find real love and lasting happiness, and NOT to settle for less.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-20 01:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably married or something. Why waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate you? Get over it already!
2007-03-20 02:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go and move on. She can't make a decision, is manipulating you, and wants to keep you as an option. Game player! You don't need it.
2007-03-20 01:32:17 · answer #10 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋