I just recently got married and now im questioning if I did the right thing. Before she was respectful and loving with so much understanding and class. Now it seems like she doesnt want to do anything, she spends all my money, she doesnt clean after herself nor will she take care of the house not to mention that she has been unemployed for going on 4 mos. Yet she has the nerve to complain about my dedication to her, I work 2 jobs and im a part time student to support her and maybe an eventual family. Now she wants a baby but were not financially stable, when I ttoldher this she threw a fit and left. Did I make a mistake?
2007-03-20 01:13:35 · 14 answers · asked by madfly2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO you did not. She got what she wanted from you and now you are going to pay big time. No matter what it costs get rid of her ASAP. She is a freeloading poor excuse for a wife. I cannot say what I really want too here.
2007-03-20 01:18:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I cant tell you for sure if you made a mistake or not, but I would tell her that if she cant take care of herself or the house, how is she going to take care of a baby?? They need 100% attention. She should be out working and helping you instead of worrying about a baby right now. Sounds like she needs to do a bit of growing up. Try talking to her again, or show her this question. Maybe that'll wake her up. If not, then its up to you if you want to put up with this behavior. Good luck!
2007-03-20 08:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by pebbles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not uncommon. Pre marriage everyone puts on the "best catch" persona. After marriage the true persona emerges.
We are blind at first to the faults of the one we want to marry.
It sounds like all along her plan was marriage and baby.
Mistake is not knowing goals and each other well enough.
Mistake is rather harash. The only mistake is not to resolve.
For most men the reality is single income. Women only see problem with single income when they are the one with the income.
2007-03-20 08:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by bright_neon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were right. You need to be financially stable before you bring children into the picture. If she doesnt want to help out with the home or finances then maybe you would be better off letting her stay gone. You may love her, but she has to be willing to change.
2007-03-20 08:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no you didn't it looks like your wife has some more growing up to do, and you have your hands full with her, you definitely do not need a baby. Specially if she is not even working around the house, you may be stuck with taking care of the baby too, so please make sure you are using some kind of birth control... and get some marriage counselor because you tell you the truth hon, you are heading for disaster. good luck.
2007-03-20 08:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably did; and if you're wise, you'll get out of this marriage before children become involved. We all make mistakes, but we don't have to live with them for the rest of our lives. She wants a baby to keep you tied to her. Be wise and get out now.
2007-03-20 08:19:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a mistake not paying attention to all these issues BEFORE you got married, don't have a baby.
2007-03-20 08:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both seem to be traveling down different paths here, wanting different things, she needs to grow up, get a job, and start cleaning her house up. u need to confront these issues, and see what she has to say, u need counseling she doesn't seem to understand how it is in the real world.
2007-03-20 09:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a grave mistake and at this rate, she'll want to work you to death and keep you in the poor house.
2007-03-20 08:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she left. don't let her back.man that's not good you both have to work to get ahead in life. get away from her. she is lazy
2007-03-20 08:25:20 · answer #10 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋