Theres this guy who's really shy and i barely even know him. and he barely even knows me but he likes me. He's gone completely obsessed over me and keeps sending me offline messages saying if i want a boyfriend he'd be here. I want a boyfriend but i don't really wanna go out with him. I've just always concider us as friends.He's liked me half the year and keeps telling my friends how much he likes me. I don't wanna hurt his feelings but by this point im really scard of him...hes gone obsessed over me!Plz help me plz!!!!
2007-03-20 01:02:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like you need to be open and honest with him and telling him that you realize he has more feelings for you than you do him. You need to let him know that you only look at him as a friend and nothing more. But consider this, he maybe the best guy you ever met and you just might hit it off if you give it try. But I will tell you this, I had a friend who was male and he was madly head over heals in love with me. I didn't feel the same way, he was a great friend and would do anything in the world for me. I finally had to tell him, I couldn't be his friend, bc of his actions. I was not spiritually or physically attracted to him. We just liked the same things and had alot in common. I stopped talking to him for 6 months, he finally got the point after 3 years of friendship, I didn't want anything more and I wasn't going to change my mind, He finally found someone and realized that he and I would have never worked out. I am happy for him, and it gave me a break from arguing with him , on telling him I didn't feel the same way about him. Bottom line be open and honest with him, whether or not it hurts his feelings.
2007-03-20 01:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are scarred of this guy what you need to do is get in a public place maybe with some friends in the area and tell him how you feel. tell him that you liked him as a friend and that you would like to keep it that way,and that if he continues to be obsessed with you and keeps e-mailing you that you will turn his butt in to the authorities.their are stalking laws and restraining orders.sometimes you have to hurt someones feelings to get your point across.good luck and be safe keep other friends around and do not turn your back on this guy......
2007-03-20 08:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by mybaby_poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing for you to do is to talk to him and explain to him that you just want to be friends. Tell him that what he does makes you uncomfortable and that you don't want to ruin the friendship. Don't answer his calls, emails, etc. If he continues, I'd talk to your parents and a teacher that knows him and they may have to talk to him, too. Being honest with him is the first step. Be kind, but firm. Good luck.
2007-03-20 08:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id buy a 12 guage, and tell him to go pound sand.
he is creepy, you need to just cut it off, not be friends, or anything. you dont need to compramize your saftey for him........
just kidding. lol.tell him how you feel, and that you only want to be friends. nothing else.
2007-03-20 11:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth.If he is a real friend,he'll understand.
2007-03-20 08:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell hym you just like as friends and that you don't want hym and he could find someone else.
2007-03-20 08:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Im the best 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you do is just tell him you want to be friends.
2007-03-20 08:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋