see!wht happening is, there is no coordination in my thinking and working!!!!!!!! whtever i plan i can"t convert it into the practice!!!i just go on doing the things i don"t want to do!!!!!!i am not able to be at my optimum level !!!!!! result is failure in my studies!!!i am trying to improve a lot ! but failing !!!!can u suggest me to overcome this problem since these days r very important to me!!!!i can't afford continuing this failure which has become a habit for me!!!!!!i am completely off the track!!!!!!!please help!!!!!!!
2007-03-20 00:32:26 · 5 answers · asked by asd 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
see your doctor , meds may help, see a counsellor, that may be a start , now it's up to you to help your self, find the right avenue to help your self, failure is not a habit or a way of life , your just making wrong choices ay this time in your life, look for some positive help now
2007-03-20 00:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by jim m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much pressure to succeed. Too much worry. Too much "trying".
When your focus is too much on the completion of the goal (i.e. getting good grades, finishing a project in a certain time, etc. etc.), not in doing the task, you can lose your way and hinder your own progress.
Set your focus on small goals and find some joy (or at least interest) in what you're studying. Then, the success you seek will come.
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Here is a quote and a Zen story to consider:
"The man of virtue makes the difficulty to be overcome his first business, and success only a subsequent consideration."
-- Confucius, The Confucian Analects
Chinese philosopher & reformer (551 BC - 479 BC)
* Zen Story - "Working Very Hard" -
'A martial arts student went to his teacher and said earnestly, "I am devoted to studying your martial system. How long will it take me to master it."
The teacher's reply was casual, "Ten years."
Impatiently, the student answered, "But I want to master it faster than that. I will work very hard. I will practice everyday, ten or more hours a day if I have to. How long will it take then?"
The teacher thought for a moment, "20 years."'
The student said, "No, I will study night and day without stop. How long then?"
The teacher considered again, then said, "40 years."
The student confused, asked, "How is it the harder I say I will work, the longer it takes?"
The teacher answered, "It is because when you so completely focus one eye on your destination, you only have one eye left to look where you are stepping."
2007-03-20 08:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Shaman 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read a good biography of the Late President Abraham Lincoln of the U.S.A. - get a book which specially brings out the failures he had, as compared to his successes. Even when, he did become one of America's most successful Presidents, handled the American Civil War successfully, and went on to have, perhaps, a happier and quieter second tenure, he was shot fatally in a theater hall...If you read about his life, you will surely understand, what power lies within a determined human being, and how he "converts" impossible failures, into outstanding successes...
2007-03-20 07:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See a doctor to make sure you don't have any underlying medical conditions causing these problems. Otherwise try someone like a life coach or a similar profession to help get your life back on track.
2007-03-20 07:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Super Question - And you made the biggest step by asking - Try slowing your self down and take deep breathes - You just may have to much on your plate right now - Give yourself permission to relax - You seem to be trying to hard - Take it one step at a time
2007-03-20 08:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋