My bf and i split up at the begining of the year,and he moved out of our home (by the way we have 2 kids together)But latelty we have been talking and we realise that we love and miss each other.During the time we were apart he got together with another girl (he says it didnt get far and he didnt sleep with her),but he told me that it felt wrong and that it just confirmed his feelings for me.He has aslo told me that he has ended the relationship/friendship.He also tells me that he wants to move back in and be a family again but he has some things to sort out first.He says he will be home within the nxt 2 weeks.I can understand that but what i dont get is when i phone him sometimes he is a bit off with me.sometimes he puts the phone down on me half way through the conversation and he says that i am smothering him by calling all the time and telling him i love him. I just want him to know that i love him and want to be a family again.am i kidding myself?or am i reading to much into it?
2007-03-20 00:20:36 · 4 answers · asked by Freckles2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, if I asked someone for 2 weeks to sort things out, I would be distressed and feel pressured by that sort of phone call, probably even the first one. He already knows that you love him and want him back. Whatever he needs his 2 weeks space for, I think you should give it to him.
He needs to freely come back because he feels sure, or it's not worth anything. Now I could be wrong of course, but I would wait it out, no pressure. Use the two weeks yourself to try to overcome your insecurity.
Best of luck.
2007-03-20 00:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure he's not just playing games with you. Is he serious about making a committment this time?
You need to be sure how he feels because if he shifts back and then decides to leave again you will be back to the start.
Don't let your desperation to 'be a family again' make you blind to obvious signs of his uncertainty.
Don't phone him all the time if you know that it is making him feel smothered, I'm sure he knows.
If he is to return you want it to be because he wants to and not because you are pressuring him into it.
2007-03-20 00:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Peta G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it doesn't sound too promising! I would be worried that he was having trouble with the new girl and just fell back on you fro comfort and now is back with her so not really interested, just stringing you along. If he loved you and the kids so much he would be straight home, nothing would stop him!
2007-03-20 00:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by wattie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could not be arsed reading that but i would just say relax
2007-03-20 00:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by tBAgmonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋