My teenager is addicted to drugs and the street life. I am a 50 year old Mom who grew up with a strong work ethic, went to college, had kids, working full time now. Never used substances, so I have no frame of reference, I just can't comprehend the lying and the roller-coaster of his life. Why would someone choose this, when so many other healthy options are available? I can't get a handle on this...
2007-03-20 00:01:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Dear Wrestler,
As a former abuser of drugs I feel for you,I'm a 46 year old male who knows first hand on how drugs can grab you.First off,your teenager didn't choose this,it has him in its grasp.I can promise you that he/she don't want to be on these drugs either.1-Remember that they really don't want to be on these drugs.2-Talk to them,tell them that you are concerned about the drug use & that you understand.(even if you dont)3-keep reassuring them that you love them,everyday 2-3 times daily.And that you would do any thing just to see them straight again.That you miss that person,Most of all remember that it only takes one person to change a person,& fortunally your that person.Personal note;It was only one person that got me off drugs.My Mom,Thank God for Moms.Dont give up on your child no matter how much pains they may cause you.When you feel like giving up remember the more you suffer the more you will receive,Good Luck,My prayers are with you both.
2007-03-20 00:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by American_Dago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a very rebellious teenager myself and did plenty of drinking and drugging. It is an escape from reality. My best advise is to contact Narconon which is narcotics anonymous for families of people addicted to drugs. They usually meet in church basements and it is all anonymous. You can learn a lot from the other families there and what they have been through. You should really attend a couple of meetings. They are wonderful and informative. They can give you advise on how to talk to your son about all of this. I wish you the best and hope you find the answers you need.
2007-03-20 02:18:25 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is Narc-onon meetings..check your phone book. Other mothers, wives, dads, spouses all with same situation. MUST do this. U said u have no frame of reference...ur right its honestly going to be a lifetime battle with her and you have to get a handle on it NOW! If she is under 18 put her in rehab...very important or she will have a long hard road ahead of her! Trust me I am going on 9 years clean and am a drug counsellor now but it was hell getting here. U said 'why would someone choose this...not a choice it is a disease! and it kills...and i know its frustrating but she is doing and living this way cuz its the only way she knows so mom its up to you (sorry) to step up for her...be strong and good luck!! It is not gonna get better or worse and harder drugs..feel free to contact me
Sorry I needed to add couple more things...now be ready cuz she is gonna fight you like you've never seen b4 (its not ur daughter fighting it is the drugs)and she will hate you and has probably done and said some terrible things do not take it personally. This is not gonna be easy but she needs to get new friends....her true friends will stand by her and they know she needs help but dont want to get her in trouble. I put my parents and ex through utter hell. Dont end up at ICU crying praying that she makes it like my parents etc did...or bailing her out of jail...i will walk you through this if you need me...GO TO A MEETING TONIGHT!!!They will be able to suggest a rehab in your area....dont worry about school im sure her grades arent good anyway. hotshot9333@msn.com
2007-03-20 01:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by alison m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you were never there for your child and your child fell through the cracks.I bet your big deal college degree is not so important now. if it is your a real loser. if your child is 18 you are **** out of luck. if the child is younger have him or her comitted.you are living the american dream of gloria steinam womans equal rights at the expence of their children. you neglectfull women are the reason the american children are so screwed up thanks alot. you all work and your poor kids become a second priority how very sad and shamefull america the great
2007-03-20 02:56:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋