I'm a female virgin and i have been receiving different and conflicting information from my experienced friends. some said it is not really painful, some said its hell and some said they enjoyed it. i want to know which is true. i'm really confused and don't know which to believe. personally, i don't know why almost everyone is going gaga over sex if really its painful.A friend told me she fell sick after the experience and couldn't walk properly for some two weeks. I'm so scared!!!
2007-03-19 23:50:07 · 14 answers · asked by kikky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey, the physical pain may be different in everyone but how will you feel mentally? I lost my virginity at 16 and to this day (almost 10 yrs later), the guy denies it. Teenage boys care about one thing: having sex. They don't care about you or how you feel. And once they got what they want, they move on and you're left to pick up the pieces.
To answer your question: everyone is different. Some female athletes don't even have a hymen (what makes you a virgin and tears during intercourse). It all depends on you and the person you are with. If the guy does not ease into it, or stimulate you enough to where you are ready (down there), it's going to feel like torture.
Interest in sex is healthy, but sexual relationships in teens and young teens is anything but healthy. Stay a virgin and watch the havoc that ensues in all of your friend's lives. They may be *all knowing* about sex, but you'll seem to be the only SMART one.
2007-03-19 23:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personaly i would advise you to wait..
there is not any kind of rush to lose your virginity.
i wish i would have waited a lot longer to lose mine.. like maybe up until 5 years ago!!!!!
it does hurt, and if you are with a guy that has some experience, but knows your situation, he would have to know that you need to be handled very gently..
what is the rush anyway?
is it that all your friends have done it and you have not?
i can almost guarantee with out a doubt that 99% of people do not stay with the first person that they have had sex with.( special circumstances, like waiting for marriage and stuff like that don't count into 'my' percentages)
so if you think that you should have sex with said person because you are commited to them, just think about what you are giving up, and please reconcider...
i know that you didn't ask the question if you should or shouldn't, and i don't mean to be the preacher....
but i just wish that i had someone on the other end of something(phone, computer, whatever) to tell me this when i was younger. i would have waited...
and my best girl told me that when she lost hers she bled for a week, and had trouble walking... however the guy she was with did not take into concederation that she was a virgin...
when you are old enough to appreciate the commitment and love that go with having sex, you will see what all the fuss is about.
i have never and never do plan on sleeping around. when i am in a serious relationship with someone that i love i take the time to get to know them, everytihng i can, before i share that with them... because you will see people who 'just give it up' because they can.. and guess what? they regret it later...
ask anyone that's married, that has had partners before they met their spouce..... they, most likely would say, that they wish they could have shared that with their husband/wife...
it's a lot to think about. so don't do it until you are really sure.. preferably until you are a lot older..
because that is something that is precious and you can't get it back..
thank you for taking the time to listen to my rambling.. just think.. that's all i ask.
2007-03-21 02:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends from person to person. losing my virginity was the most painful experience of my life, and i bled lightly for about 24 hours after. i even asked my boyfriend to stop in the middle so i could relax. however, i have friends who didn't feel much pain at all. if you're having second thoughts because of fear, maybe you should consider that your fear isn't just of physical pain. there's an automatic attachment to the first guy you have sex with, so if you're not sure that you want that yet, wait. any guy worth having sex with will wait until you're completely ready.
and don't forget....eat safe, use a condiment.
2007-03-20 00:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone experiences it differently...however, the friend who couldn't walk for 2 weeks is a drama queen. Usually the first time or 2 will be a little painful because you're tense and not relaxing...also the hymen tears and may bleed...this is completely normal...just be prepared. The more you can relax and "be in the moment"...the better it will be for you
2007-03-19 23:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didnt say how old u are so i'll assume ur a teen...i remember my first time and it didnt really hurt, it was more of a discomfort, there was a spotting of blood but that was it..i wouldnt say it was enjoyable the very first time but it was b/c i didnt know what i was doing...but its not like that anymore..its painless and enjoyable.
Only thing I would say is make sure ur not having sex just to have sex and before ur ready, a lot of responsibility and feelings come about b/c of having sex...dont to it just to say you have or because youre being pressured. You will know when the time is right and of course, use protection to prevent pregnancy and STD.s
2007-03-19 23:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a girl but from what I hear the technique of the guy plays a heavy role in how painful it is. Most guys have no idea what they're doing so no wonder so many girls find it painful. But it gets better with time as your body adapts.
2007-03-19 23:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by JEP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 10:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it hurts the first time it really does. but as time goes on and if your with the the right guy it keeps getting better and better. good luck and dont get all slutty and trampy remember you also must have some respect dont let any guy take that from you
2007-03-23 20:40:16 · answer #8 · answered by anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friends experience is not important becouse like you said everybody tell you different information becouse my experience is gonna be totaly different then yours and the only thing you can do is just relax don't think about the pain and enjoy it.
BEFOR YOU DO IT THINK VERY GOOD AND TELL TO YOURSELF THAT ANYTHING WILL HAPPEND AFTER YOU'LL NEVER REGRET AND DON'T FELL REMORSE
2007-03-20 00:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by iulia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its different for everyone. But it could be painful. That is why you need to wait for someone who truly loves you so they will be gentle & patient.
2007-03-19 23:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋