my daughter has this friend who is very jealous of her and does anything she can to get the attention! my girl has just started going out with this nice boy and her friend would not let him go near her!! the boy told my girl this!!. My girl was also texted by him yesterday asking if they were ok as he really likes her! she could not understand why he would say that!? and apparently the so called friend had been texting him! I think she is a nasty bit of work( past issues with her) I really want my girl to ditch her for good as she has fallen out with her lots b4! my family all tell her she is nasty but I suppose she will see it in the end!????
2007-03-19 23:23:24 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is a good kid !!
2007-03-20 00:01:39 · update #1
lovely personality,looks..without sounding big headed she has alot going for her and i worry about the friends jealousy!
2007-03-20 00:03:22 · update #2
I think that most of us has had a friend similar to the one you described. Maybe your daughter should slowly wean herself off this friend and spend more time at home with the boyfriend if she is keen on him. Friends like that girl is bad news and your daughter will just end up getting hurt which on the other hand may be a good thing too. She your daughter is obviously aware of the friends meanness but does not know how to get rid of her. I personally spoke outright to a similar friend i had and i was ten times happier without her around. She the friend is obviously insecure and depends on your daughter to make her happy which is just not on. Good luck to you and your daughter as i know the mother suffers just as much.
2007-03-20 02:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be horrible for you to see you daughter being treated like this, I am assuming she is a young teenager?
She will definately come round in the end, everyone has a jealous friend who envies them, but not many go to the extremes that this girl seems to be going to.
Just be there for your daughter, tell her what you think of her friend, and when it all comes to an end, which it will, you can then breathe a sigh of relief. Maybe then your daughter will choose her friends with a little insight into how some people can be.
Call it a learning curve, however hard it is for you to watch.
2007-03-20 07:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should take your daughter for a drink somewhere, sit down and have a little chat. You can't tell her to choose her friends, but you certainly can make her realise what a real friend is. Tell her about you and your real friends and how you'd react if you had such an accointance.
In the end, your daughter will decide what's best for her, she may just need some little advice
2007-03-20 06:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pelayo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plant the idea into her mind that she is an individual free to make to make choices, and her 'friend' is denying her that. The only people to have that privilege will be her parents if they can see something is clearly not right about the situation.
When she is grown enough to live independently, she won't have to answer to anybody, so she to needs to practise this where this 'friend' is concerned. If she can do this, she can go as far in life as she likes. Well until she meets her soul mate, then she of course will have someone else to consider, but she will not be dictated to.
2007-03-20 08:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to grit your teeth and let her find out in her own time. It's hard I know. i had a friend like that when I was a teen, my mother interfered and it caused so many problems. I did end up finding out the hard way, and my Mum had been right all along.
It's part of growing up, why not suggest nights out just with the two of them and you or encourage him to come over and watch a film so they can spend time together without the crazy friend.
Good luck, I'm sure it will all work out!!!
2007-03-20 06:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is tricky it is always hard to get good frinds and lots of people get jealous its human nature not many show it. But whats the reason for her frind not wanting him to go neat your daughter is he a player is he actually nasty, herr frind may be trying to protect her i know id try and protect my female friends. however then again it is unfair if the bloke is a decent fellow for your daughters frined to intervene. tell your daughter to tell her friend to stop interfering as it can damage the friendship which she doesnt want, and that she'll learn by her own mistakes as it is all part of growing up'
2007-03-20 06:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by wierd and wounderful world of me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is, we do have to let our children learn some things the hard way. You've warned her, now say no more and wait. And when she has enough with her she will drop her. As a rebellious kid I tended to go against my mothers wishes. If she didn't like someone I would like them. You get my drift. Let her go and work this out on her own, this is where she learns coping and problem solving skills. Good luck.
2007-03-20 06:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Shyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a friend like that,but not anymore,I told her to get lost,your daughter will eventually see this friend for what she is,don't worry about her,good luck.
2007-03-20 06:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Your daughter will have to see her for what she truly is herself. You know kids don't want to listen to what we have to tell them because they really believe that we don't know. Just be there for her when it does happen (not to tell her "I told you so") so that you can help her through that tough time.
2007-03-20 06:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello she will see it in the end, I know its frustrating cause my mate has a friend like that it annoys me
you just got to let her see it for herself
2007-03-20 06:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Elektra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋