NOW he wants me to come back and live with him and that IF things work out we could re-marry??? It's too long a story to go into but it seems most women i talk to say that when they have gone back it doesn't change or get any better or worse???? What do you think i should do? Maybe someone needs to come over here and slap me??? HA!!!
2007-03-19 22:53:04 · 12 answers · asked by VICTORIA L 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not as strange of a situation as you might think. There are a lot of couples that go through this. I am sure at this point you are having reservations and trust issues about the whole matter and I don't blame you. I would fly solo for a while, Sweetie, and see what it is like without him. I sure as heck wouldn't go running back to him because if you do and he decides that he has had enough again, he is more likely going to do it again. You are really probably better off keeping your distance and starting a new, fresh and exciting life for yourself!
2007-03-19 23:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be some space here. This would be way too soon. He needs time to work out his problems before attempting a relationship again with anyone. Remarriages between the same couples are common and do actually work out, but only after some time after divorce to get things back into perspective. Give it sometime, and then start dating all over again and see if there really is something to build a relationship on again. Dont shut this door, just reopen it real slow if this is what you want. Good luck
2007-03-19 23:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not go back and live with him if i were you. Your divorce just became final.... Live your life for a while and give it some time first i would say at least six months to a year. Your husband just wants you with him because he wants sex and is lonely now that you are divorced. i think he is on the rebound and that this is not out of love for you at all this point. If over time he keeps insisting and way down the road you want to try again go for it BUT like i said give it some time and lots of it. Sometimes going back to them does work but it is very rare.
2007-03-19 23:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Victoria, I usually don't answer questions like these because I believe that you know in your heart what would be the best thing for you. To many questions would need to be answered to even decide on an answer. Why did he divorce you? etc. etc.Don't hurry things like this and they usually resolve themselves.Be patient and you will tell if he really wants to work things out with you.By the way where on the Texas coast do you live? I grew up near Portland, Texas I love it down there.
2007-03-20 00:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by James Dodge Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be nice if you got back with him. but if you think that he would still be the same, maybe not.
maybe you should think hard first why he divorced you in the first place. is the problem solved now to convince you that it is ok to get back with him? marriage is not something to play around with. you don't get married because you feel like it, then divorce because there is something that you don't want to solve together as husband and wife.
2007-03-19 23:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are already thinking of going back, maybe you should. remember: better a known devil than an unknown angel. atleast there won't be any major surprises in stores. here's hoping things work out better the second time around!
2007-03-19 22:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember what made you divorce in the first place. Don't go back
2007-03-19 22:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure it's tempting to knuckle under to him. It's scary to have to make your own decisions. But, it's worth it, dear - really it is! Free will is our one true gift.
Run - don't walk! Get away from him and break contact. He's using you. Start a new life. You deserve better.
2007-03-19 22:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Little Ms Sunshine 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Slap him for even suggesting such a thing to you.
2007-03-20 00:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to that loser! He made your heart break, and now he's just playing games with you! He just wants wants to use you!
2007-03-19 22:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋