My ex of ten years has just found out that I am seeing a bisexual guy and is harrassing me. He is very intolerate of gay or bisexual people and is turning my children against me. I really like this guy and he is a wonderful person. I dont want to loose my children but I feel I am doing nothing wrong. This guy I am seeing is who he is. I accept that. I love him for being honest with his feelings and open about it. I dont know what to do about my ex. He tells my children that we are going to hell because it is wrong. My ex was always controling which is one reason I left him. I am open minded and except people for who they are. I love my children but I feel I should be able to see who I want to see. I dont know why I have to give up my happiness because he dont agree, but he trys to control everyone and it is a never ending battle.
2007-03-19 22:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by Jackie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm assuming that your ex is the father of your children. It's absolutely none of his business who you see. As long as the children are being properly provided for and there's no abuse or neglect then he needs to go on with his life. I hate when one parent tries to poison the children's minds against the other parent. That's mean, vindictive, selfish and in no way helpful to the children. Just because they're not together anymore parents should be working with each other not against each other when it comes to the children. How would he like it if you started voicing opposition to someone he was dating?
2007-03-19 23:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is baffling me here is if your ex is the control freak that you describe, then how the heck did he find out about the sexual orientation of your new friend in the first place? I do hope that you are not feeling obliged to report to your ex, with each and every detail of your new life. That can be a wee bit touchy. It would seem that the current behavior of your ex is probably the reason why he is your "ex" in the first place, no?
Anyway, even if you have made the fatal mistake of telling your ex about your current love life, its still your life. So don't be bothered by what he likes and doesn't like. Its none of his business. There is no law that prohibits you from dating this other man just because he is bisexual. It is his choice and as long as it does not bother you, then it's your choice too. Your children should and will understand this about you.
I don't think you should allow this to bother you so much. If you love the guy, you love the guy. Follow your heart. Your ex is just doing what he does best, which is being an EX.
2007-03-20 01:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Chandru M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex that you are an adult and will make your own decisions. Advise him that your private life does not affect the children and that it's none of his business.
Basically, just tell him to kiss your *** and butt out.
Of course, if you really wanted to burn him up you could tell him that your bi bf is a better lover than he ever was, lol.
2007-03-19 23:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
one's sexual preference sometimes has to be a private matter. when children are involved.
perhaps you could ' announce ' you have straightened
him out., with you and your boyfriend in agreement.
once this is accomplished, look at your finances.
perhaps a drastic change in child support will give the manipulative guy something else to complain about.
whatever the case, your ex needs to put the needs of the kids in the forefront and be peaceful.
kids that are involved with parental differences tend to grow up having difficulty in their relationships.
good luck.
2007-03-19 23:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by john john 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
as long as you are happy then you are doing the right thing, your kids will realise that your ex is a small minded, opinionated fool who has no time for anyone unlike himself, you did well for getting out of the relationship and good luck with your new boyfriend, i hope it all works out for you
2007-03-19 22:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by alaniss2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is Harassing you and making problems with your kids, take him back to court, get full custody, and then take out a restraining order against him. You don't have to deal with the harassment.
2007-03-20 00:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is it you ex knows your guy's sexual orientation? Could it be you talk too much. Or he figured it out somehow. Either way to much of your business is out there and it will serve you right if your household gets shakin up a bit.
2007-03-19 23:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are asking a question so I will give you an answer. You are having sex with a person who has been penetrated by another man anally and vice versa. Are'nt we a little to open minded? Why don't you just tell the truth? that you are a sex freak and you left the relationship because you wanted to see other men. You may be a good person, I don't know you and I don't have a problem with gay peoples but it sounds like you are the one with a problem. To me anyways.
2007-03-19 23:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 5⤋
Find a good Traditional Catholic Priest. The key word here is Traditional. That is a priest who has been to a Seminary not tainted by the Modernists. He will explain to you what is wrong with your thinking and where your current conduct will lead. Not one ounce of good can come from all this.
2007-03-19 22:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by tPuck101 1 · 0⤊ 7⤋