I have this childhood friend, She tells everyone that we are best mate since kiddo. I've started to be very dissapointed with her. SHes always taking advantages of me. Shes always "remind" me how bad & how stupid I'm. When i am out with her, she keep making me pay for everything. She said shes overspend, or has ran out of cash, and i would have to settle the bill; she said she would pay back but she never did if i dun remind her. She keeps telling me where she travel to and who she met and wat she buy, and how come i never did this, as if i am frog living in a well that never seen the world. She loves to insult me by making bad comment of me even infront of others. I'm a quiet person, but that doensnt mean i'm an ignorant. I treat her nicely and sincerely, but I am very disspapionted with all she has done to me. I fel so annoying, She acts like good girls next door to elderly and everyone thinks we'r very close and like sister. I have noone to talk to.
2007-03-19 21:50:23 · 7 answers · asked by The Ox 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, know that no one can take advantage of you unless you allow it to happen. You need to take control of any given situation that is not pleasant for you. Do not simply just "take it"...that's what the other person is counting on you to do, as to not draw any attention to the situation...but, that's where it should STOP! Kindly remind the person that you are friends and true friends DO NOT ACT THAT WAY!! If she persists, then call them on their actions and let the person know that you will not tolerate the abuse (and yes, that is emotional abuse) in my opinion, the worst kind. You can eventually heal from physical abuse (not that I condone it...AT ALL), it is just for comparison, but the emotional abuse lasts a lifetime. If the person continues with the abuse, then stop the participation (if you go along with it then you are a participant) Cut the relationship and start to heal yourself, because you know that you are a better person than the other person portrays you to be. Make new friends and keep in mind that this person will most likely interfere with your decision, but stick to your guns, because she needs to put other people down to make herself look good. But anyone that has to do that to feel good about themselves. is not worthy of your friendship. It took me a long time to learn that,
PEOPLE WILL ONLY DO TO YOU, WHAT YOU ALLOW THEM TO DO. Good luck and feel better!!!!!!!
2007-03-19 22:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have a friend like that.I tried to convince myself that she was my friend indeed.We had been friends since childhood also,That's why I think it was so hard to kick her to the curb.I let her know how I felt a few times and things never changed.She would change her behavior for a day or two and would be back up to her old tricks.Friends that don't share in the expenses are not your friends.They are greedy little selfish people that do not deserve you.I would say end this endless circle of hurt no matter how hard it is.With friends like that who needs enemy's?RIGHT???Good luck!You sound like a very sweet person.
2007-03-20 05:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by lady2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's like that, how could you refer to her as your "best friend"? A best friend is the one who is suppose to take care of you, not take advantage of you! I suggest you stand up to her whenever she takes advantage of you again. Tell her your problem and how she's been disappointing and annoying you lately. Tell her you can't take any more of her insults. If you do these and she ends up mad at you and even said that you are not her best friend anymore, then just go find another one...a person far better than her! But if you don't want you guys to fight, then just try reasoning with her and telling her your problem. Hope this helps. :)
2007-03-20 04:59:25 · answer #3 · answered by (>.<) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ox, tell her face-to-face how you feel. Since you have been friends since childhood, maybe she's unaware of how much she is hurting you. Also you need to learn to say "no" if you feel as though you are backed up into a situation not of your choosing. You also need to find other friends that would be accepting of who and what you are. Broaden your horizons so you'll have more options with whom to socialize with. That way you'll become less dependent on your "best friend".
2007-03-20 04:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, Ox be patient don't worry she is not a good friend for you, because someone ho it shooed to be your best friend it tells to you stupid or something like that is not a good friend, maybe just a jerk and you must go on and look for a really best friend!!! Good luck to you!!!!!
2007-03-20 05:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by Dya - The white Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not ur bestfriend honey! find a trully and honest person to be ur bestfriend. dont be stupid or feel guilty for leaving her, u deserve the best bestfriend, ok.. wish u the best. take care.
2007-03-20 05:17:11 · answer #6 · answered by EJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God! Stupid ***** your girlfriend! I think she feels envy for you. If you were really that stupid and she was really that interesting, why would she bother to prove that to you? Get rid of her asap!
2007-03-20 06:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sabina S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋