My guy cheated on me a long time ago, we have moved on, but I still find it nescessary to check up all the time.
I check his emails all the time, and theres one account that he doesnt know that i check...
Ive never found anything, however today i found a odd one.......it didnt really say anything incriminating...................it just said ...............its me pat, Ive left my phone at home.
I thought it was strange as I know he didnt leave his phone at home!
Should I be concerned?
2007-03-19 21:35:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hes not my ex .........I said we have moved on past the time that he cheated on me.
However anyone who has been cheated on will know, its alot easier to forgive than to forget.
2007-03-19 21:47:44 · update #1
Thats the thing .it was a hotmail address........i highly doubt it was for work.,
2007-03-19 21:50:24 · update #2
Im busting to email her, but i dont want him to catch me.......just incase it is innocent....( I know its probably not).....any other ideas so I can find out who she is?
2007-03-19 22:03:36 · update #3
I am speaking from personal experience.
Once someone cheats it is hard to ever fully trust that person again because if they could do it once they could and are highly likely to do it again. You don't trust him as far as you could throw him that is why you are checking and spying on him.
It is a miserable way to live...time is precious and you deserve someone you know you can trust and don't have to spy on.
If you want to stay in the relationship and he is willing I suggest couples counseling for the both of you and individual counseling for him so at least you can really get down to the bottom of why he cheated in the first place and solve any of his personal issues so that at least you two may have a chance and a healthy relationship.
Best of luck.
2007-03-19 21:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do not worry about it right now.... It may be someone who he works with or does business with. When you see him ask him who Pat is and see what he has to say. I really do not think you have anything to worry about here. Keep checking the emails and if more come from pat and they are continuing then i would start to be concerned if i were you. This may very well be an innocent email that really means nothing. Give the guy a chance is all i am saying.
2007-03-20 05:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you said you have moved on and forgiven, then you will have to trust him, checking up on him and thinking about it all the time is eating you up and the question lays down to have you really forgiven him?
You have two choices here 1. Forgive him and start learning to trust him again or 2. Give up on him and you move on to start a new life for yourself.
The suspicion and constant checking must be so tiring and like you can never relax to start living your life with him.
Good Luck
2007-03-20 04:58:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey... i AM SAYING THIS FROM EXPERIENCE- WHERE THERE IS THE FEELING THAT YHE IS DOING IT... THEN HE IS DOING IT! Please do not tell him nor ask him about the e-mail you got... act stupid... and keep checking behind his back until you get more and more clues- trust me... you will get what you are looking for and say " Gotcha" You just have to resist the urge to tell him. Maybe you can write her the e-mail pretending to be him and ask her for her telephone number, because you lost it and then enquire further. Your man will slip up soon- I promise you... If you want write to me and I can coach you through it.
2007-03-20 04:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are now obsessed with poking around where you do not belong. People have no right checking each other's mail.
You may think you are justified, but you are not.
Find some other way to do your detective work.
2007-03-20 07:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are sneaky, not the emails! You need to stop spying on your ex. That's just not a right thing to do. There is little or nothing you can do with the information you find anyway. He will strongly dislike and object to what you are doing to him so I suggest you end your spy games as soon as possible. You said you have moved on. Prove it.
2007-03-20 04:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do you know the person he sent the email too? I would check to see who she is. It could be a business relationship.
2007-03-20 04:48:05 · answer #7 · answered by jmattiace29 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned. Talk to your man before it is too late. Once a cheat always a cheat.
2007-03-20 04:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Barkditch 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe she was refering to she left her phone at home good luck
2007-03-20 05:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's got a second cell phone that you don't know about.
2007-03-20 04:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by killmylandlord 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋