I met this guy a couple of months ago and I really like him. He seems like the perfect guy but he is bisexual. I know he likes me alot because he is always asking me out and constantly talking to me. He is great in the bedroom. He has the sweetest, most out going personality I have ever known. The only problem is I recently found out that his best friend which he is moving in with is gay and his boyfriend. I dont understand why he is chasing me. He recently said he dont want to move in with him but it is a little too late. I didnt know that his friend was his boyfriend. I just found out but I really like this guy and I dont know what to do because I think he really likes me too. I never met anyone like him. I like his friend. He is a terrific guy. What should I do, continue seeing him?
2007-03-19 21:28:40 · 9 answers · asked by Jackie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He's just trying to fulfill his needs. As long as nobody is getting hurt it's fine. It sounds as though you may want to advance in a relationship. He's made his choice by moving in with him. If he continues wanting to see you, and his BF is ok with it, then enjoy eachother's company. But remember, his BF might turn jealous biotch and want to spend a little time with you if you know what I mean. Cheating isn't gender biased! When I see a woman, I don't want her running of with anyone behind my back. Be careful with these situations...they can be volatile.
2007-03-19 23:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Tall Chicky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to you not to take this situation any differently than you would if he was totally straight. If he's moving in with his boyfriend, it's the same as if he was moving in with his other girlfriend.
That kind of things happens all the time. Some people think that it's not because you have a partner that you have to be faithful and/or monogamus.
Also, the fact that he's bisexual might mean he's still undecided wether he prefers men or women. Maybe he's trying to get the best of both by seeing you and having a relationship with a man.
I don't think anybody deserves to be in your position. If he really likes you, then he should breakup with his boyfriend. You don't want to be the third wheel, that's for sure.
I know this situation might seems hard to you because you look like a very sweet and passionate woman. What you need to know though is that it's not right for you to continue seeing him if you can't accept the current situation.
The best thing is always communication. Try to talk to him about your feelings and about the whole situation and your point of view on it.
If he can't make up his mind, maybe he's not the right guy for you.
Like I said: if he really likes/loves you, he'll be open to talk with you and share. Maybe there are some details you have no clue about.
Go on, talk to him but don't continue doing this to yourself, it's not right for you. You deserve much better, I'm sure about that.
2007-03-20 10:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by m_dl05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always feel inclined to ask ages when questions of cheating arise, because in my mind, I don't think there is anything wrong with young people (under 30) keeping their options open and seeing lots of people (sensibly, of course). My advice is to keep seeing him, feel it out for a little longer, and see where it goes. If he really doesn't want to move in with his boyfriend, though, he shouldn't sign a lease. Keep the options open. I mean, when you're exploring things, you wanna try to hurt as few people as possible, but that sometimes requires honesty. If he moves in with his boyfriend, but later decides he doesn't wanna live with him anymore, a HUGE mess could be caused (I went through a similar situation when I was 19).
Also, I don't know the whole situation, but maybe he's just using you for a little experience. I mean, I don't know. It just doesn't sound like it's been going on for long, and sometimes people actually do use people just to gain experience. You have to be the judge of it all, and decide if you are OK with that. Sometimes there is nothing wrong with a little fun on the side, so long a nobody gets hurt.
2007-03-20 04:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by its.getting.worse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are liking him then like him as he is. Do not try to change him. If you are ok with that guy and his BF then you can go with him.
Please note that not all straight guys are not straight. when some guys offers his for a ******* 90% of the straight guys will accept.
2007-03-20 05:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by newsundersky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue seeing him
because you like him.
be friends,
but keep in mind if you are looking for marriage, there could be trouble ahead.
so go into this with your eyes open
so you don't get heartbroken later.
2007-03-20 05:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by john john 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah
2007-03-20 04:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by AL IS ON VACATION AND HAS NO PIC 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Never be the third person!!!!give him a choice its you or his bf!!!if he loves you then he will be with you!!!he cant have the best of both worlds!!
2007-03-20 04:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by (,'')Sweet guy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get over this and move on. You can do better for yourself.
2007-03-20 09:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it. you cant solve this problem alone. talk to him either he chooses you or his boyfriend. DO make sure that if he says he chooses you, MAKE SURE he WONT change his mind later on.
2007-03-20 04:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by kachengz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋