Long distance from my ex bf, having alot of confusion...Can someone give me some advice?

Question

My ex and I have been long distance for about 3 years prior to breaking up 2 months ago, and it is really getting hard for him( for me too I just see a bigger picture here), causing fustration and tension between the two of us. We have been fighting off and on because for the last 6 months I have been further away on job assignments that he told me to take( which were clearly talked about before accepting them). He blames me now for taking these jobs after telling me he was ok with them. He tells me that this is the reason why our relationship is failing. And he really thinks he has no fault in this situation. I know that he is lonely(me too) , but I fell like something else is going on because it is like one day he wants me and the next day he dosen't. We are at a terrible state right. I love him and really want ot be with but he is confusing me. I need some advice.

Answer 1

give yourself a break.
tell him you need to think more of this situation and ask him to give you some space.
i don't think he's worth it for you.
there's a lot more guys out there waiting for you to open your heart for them.
give them a achance.
for your ex, try to not think about him.
maybe he's just not for you anyway.

Answer 2

just as there are times that a woman wants the guy to say no the guy wants the woman to say no. he says yes, even though he would rather you not, because that is showing he loves you
and off you go to pursue your goals and get rich and he knows that every time says yes to the assignments and you go, his importance/releveance in your life diminishes. While he may be showing his love and ensuring that later you dont bring up how he held you back. and some women do have a long memory in an argument - not that you do but, hey just watch TV - a reflection of what is perceived in society. Maybe
once in a while he should say no and you accept that and believe your togetherness is more important than the money and career or you should just stay broke up and not think about a relationship until after you have your goals and wealth
You could even take a long truthful look at yourself and see what is really important to you, a lasting relationship or gathering of stuff and all material things, glory and celebrity.
Moreover you can listen to a couple of the first answers and buy into the "its never my fault always someone elses and they have the problem" philosophies, those are both prevelent in america and other english speaking countries. I suggest self reflection accepting ones own share of responsibility and holding self accountable.

Answer 3

You cannot have a stable life with an unstable person. You love him, that's great, and keep on loving him till you feel like. You should not think of marrying him. When it's ex it's gone. Think of a new life starting from right now. Your mind will try to think back, but just watch your mind's wandering. After sometime, you will get rid of your thoughts.