My grandmother passed away 13 years ago. I wasn't informed of her passing until the day of the funeral, which was in a different state. Needless to say, I wasn't able to go. After all these years, I still don't have closure. This woman was my heart and soul. I'm wanting to know will there ever be closure?
2007-03-19 21:02:02 · 11 answers · asked by Safaia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Safaia? Closure could come this moment if you wish. You and I or anyone else weren't born with our beliefs. No matter what religion, if any, you happen to practise, your ideas of "death" for instance are only what others who didn't do their homework told you that it was.
The only book in the world which claims divine inspiration tells us that the dead are conscious of nothing at all, that they won't even remember anything until the "resurrection". At that time, she will be beautiful and healthy again in her perfectly restored body. Also in the bible, in the days that Jesus walked on the earth, a certain man wanted to follow him but asked Jesus to wait until he could bury his father. Jesus answered: "Let the dead bury the dead." It meant that those who weren't conscious of their spiritual needs and were only living for the material things of life were already as though they were dead, in spirit! Don't think for a moment that in the eyes of the true God, you are worth any less than anyone at the funeral that day. To the contrary, you have spent years of sadness of heart and that makes Him want to reward you that much more as you have probably stored more spiritual treasures in heaven thatn you can imagine. I could go into it in every detail to prove that you will see her again, that you will have the greatest times you ever had with her again and that she will not remember for one second nor will she even want discuss "death" as it will be gone for ever. That is a promise from a God who cannot lie. (Acts 24:15; Hebrews 6:18; Titus 1:2; Revelation 20:6.)
Please check also Galatians 5:22-23 and compare these with the 2 scriptures just above and see what is required for anyone to be on the right "train" to get to see those loved ones come back to life when God's government becomes the only one for the whole earth when even death will be done away with. Revelation 21: 3-4.
2007-03-19 21:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the Navy for 20 yrs, and on a dfeployment overseas when my grandfather passed, i had seen him a few months before he passed, when my aunt made mention to my mom about how I didnt bother to come to the funeral as she and all her children had, my grandmother interrupted my aunt and replied " the funeral is for the living, the dead dont care, what LV and I want is to be visited while we are alive, dont do us any good after we are gone, charlessaw us alot while LV was alive, alot more than you and even more than your daughters, he didnt mind traveling 500-1000 miles to stay a week or even a couple days. you couldnt even drive 150 miles for thanksgiving or christmas He hs important things to do protecting this country so you HUSH" when my sister told me about this I realized the wisdom often overlooked by by younger people, i also had closure because you see they understood what was important and now I did as well and hopefully a few others. so did you see her while alive? take closure in her knowing what was truely important - knowing how you felt and you being there while she was alive.
2007-03-19 21:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel better if you get to visit her grave and say what you would like to say to her. You might feel better about it as time goes on, but after 13 years you may not get closure until you get to be there.
2007-03-19 21:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Search your memory for good times you and your grandmother spent together and keep her alive in your heart and thoughts. Give yourself peace of mind and let her smile down on you. You been sad to long and shes been feeling your saddness. Smile, grandmother will be content with your release from this this.
2007-03-19 21:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she is still in your heart is touching. That she meant a great deal to you was not lost on her. The pain that you feel is the love for her and it will never go away....try looking at it that way. Good luck.
2007-03-19 21:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by JR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it continuously relies upon on the man, some people ought to opt to have share Heaven with the single we concept we loved, then to verify it replaced into no longer meant to be, yet we regularly times imagine about it and are available to the top, that it replaced into more advantageous powerful to verify if we were in a position to share fairly of Heaven with that particular individual, than to no longer have journey Love in any respect. on the different hand, often times it ought to were more advantageous powerful now to not love in any respect than flow via each of the soreness of remembering all that had occurred, so i imagine it is going both procedures.
2016-11-27 00:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by taguchi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you will visit her grave, it will bring the closest thing to closure for you. You have to do it or, it will continue to bother you.
2007-03-19 21:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by liberty11235 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What helped me when my first daughter died was writing a letter to her; I wrote everything I was feeling at that moment thinking about her. I went to her gravesite and read it out loud to her. Writing my feelings down really helped put them into perspective for me. :)
2007-03-19 21:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by VHagerty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if u visited her Grave site you would get some comfort there
2007-03-19 21:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by aprilangel4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Go to her grave sight and talk to her. Tell her of your love for her and hos much you miss her.
2007-03-19 21:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋