How do I start to forget/ forgive myself for my past mistakes?

Question

I am a person that seems to almost always make the wrong decision. But I know that I am a good and caring person to anyone that I meet. How do I forgive myself, and stop remembering past memories that I feel that I have chosen wrongly.

Answer 1

One way of letting go is to change the mistake into a positive.

Aside of your conscious mind, there are also many other parts of you that also have an interest in your behaviour. Everything that you or a part of you does is done with a positive intent, and with this in mind you can look at your history in a different light.

Think of one of the instances that is troubling you, and ask yourself honestly, what was the positive intent behind that decision. You can deliberate on the answer, but often, the first thing that pops into your head is correct.

It may be that you let someone down once, and still feel bad about it, but your reasons for doing so were that they had proved themselves untrustworthy, and you knew inside they were going to hurt you - so a part of you let them down. The positive intent here is self-preservation, and often this can get lost in the mix of feelings.

You are embarking on an important voyage of self-discovery, as you take steps to find out who you really are. And instead of asking the question 'why did i do that?', you'll find it much more useful to start asking 'what was my positive intent?'

Answer 2

I find that writing things down helps me.....make a list of things that you feel you have done that you need to move past. Look at that list and see if there is anyone you need to apologize to in order to settle things. If so, then start with that. You may even need to apologize to yourself for some things. When you look at that list you will probably notice that most things, you can't do anything about now. So, forgive yourself for making those mistakes and tear up that paper and throw it away. You will never forget all the things but you can put them behind you. Do what you can about the things you can change and let the other things go. You are human and you are going to make mistakes and bad decisions in your life. It is part of life. Also, when you are reviewing your list, try to think about what you've learned from those mistakes. Take what you have learned and move forward. Live each day as it comes and stop living in the past. You will feel much freer. I hope this helps.

Answer 3

We all have a past. We all have mistakes. We all go through this. You are not alone. Answer this question, What did you learn from your mistakes? If you learned from them and apply that knowledge in the future then you took a negative and made it into a positive. Secondly answer this. What good will come out of it if I hold on to the past and continually beat myself up emotionally about it? Answer is NOTHING> Let go, Let God and remember, life is about the journey and the journey is about learning and their is no learning without failure first. You will be fine. A person can change their ways if their heart is in the right place. Your heart is, and if you follow it you will find happiness. Good luck, God bless, and if you confess your sins to Jesus with true remorse he will forgive you.

Answer 4

Believe in yourself, you probably have had very bad experiences in childhood, and you still have these painful memories right under your skin. It's time for you to turn the page, start a new life, and enjoy it. You are a human being, and as such what you think is as important as what anybody else thinks. Be proud of your decisions, everyday you take more decisions that will take you to the path of success. Forget the past mistakes, concentrate on the bright future ahead of you! Good luck my friend!

Answer 5

Sounds like you have a tendancy to give up on yourself. The solution I'm offering you works but, if you start it, don't let yourself down by quiting. That's the last thing you need to do to yourself. However, if you take this on it will change your relationship with the past and yourself forever.
One more thing before I tell you about this. If you have done something bad ad can't stop doing it, you need help. So get it,- counselling, whatever...!
Ok! This will take one week. Once you start, don't stop!
In Matthew 18:21 Peter asks Jesus how many times one should forgive his neighbor. Jesus said 'seventy times seven'. So, that's how many times you must forgive yourself. Seventy times a day for seven days. Here's how to do it.
Get several writing tablets and write the following down on the first page.
'I, (write you name) forgive myself completely. I am totally innocent.'
Then take a deep breath, exhale and write the very next thoughts that come to mind. Write everything regardless of how negative it may be. Then write the affirmation again, followed by another deep breath and then everything that comes to mind.
If you do this sincerely, with commitment, you will end up writing down all the rotten things you tell yourself about yourself and others in the back of your mind. I think I used 9 exam tablets when I did it.
Towards the end your subconcious mind will will begin to agree that you ARE innocent and when you complete the exercise you will have a new commitment to never give up on yourself again.
I hope you care enough about yourself to do this. You'll feel great! But if you can't stop doing something that really is wrong, get help!
One last thing, if you want to create brand new relationships with you loved ones, start with your parents and do the same process for each of them, eg. 'I forgive you, Dad...' Like that. You can dump all of youf negative thoughts about everyone this way.
Emjoy!

Answer 6

Practically speaking, I don’t think you can “forget” but if you learn to forgive those memories will not be hurting so much as they do now. I guess you should be more analyzing and think broad before you make important decisions so later you will not have to regret. If possible for those wrong things you did, try to make amends. Maybe you won’t be able to put things right as they were but if you try it may mean so much more.

Answer 7

YOU JUST DID!! By admitting they were your mistakes!
That's right! You dumped it all out! Now, leave them
out of your thoughts and get on with the good in you!

No priest, no gods, no other human can forgive you
if you don't forgive yourself.

Answer 8

No one is perfect. Learn from your mistakes and go on with your life. Mistakes makes one a better person.

Answer 9

Frankly, it's really hard to forgive yourself until the One who really matters does. Wanna know more? Contact me.