For those bullied during school: Are you still effected by it?

Question

I was bullied daily from Kindergarten all the way through my second year of college, from the ages of 5-19. I can honestly say that I am still effected by it. I lack vital social skills, and have difficulty talking to other people. I also don't make friends easily..

For those who were bullied during school, are you still effected by it?

mamai_94509, My parents tried to step in numerous times. The only thing the schools ever did was tell the people who were harassing me, "Its okay, don't do it again." and guess what, they would always do it again. My parents threatened legal action at one point in time, and the school had to pretend that they cared by suspending one of the 50 people that would pick on me. The suspension lasted for a day. When I had to deal with the employees at the school by myself, with me sitting there begging and crying for them to do something, I would get laughed at, by the people who worked there no less. I know how to defend myself (I grew up with boys, it's something you learn as you grow up.) but it is really hard to defend yourself against so many people.

I did try to defend myself at one point in time, they laughed at me for it, and then the bullying got worse. I couldn't change schools because I would have no way to get there. Mom worked all the time and Dad was always gone.

Answer 1

I will always believe that people are looking at me like I am the ugliest one in the room.Logically I know its not true but I cant help feeling that way. Being bullied completely changed my personality from a happy confident kid into an introvert who never feels completely comfortable in my own skin. Years later and I still feel the sting of their words

Answer 2

I didn't let it go that long - I decided to play along with the games instead of letting it bother me and it all stopped. It's a real shame your parents didn't step in and demand the school put an end to it OR get you some self-defense lessons... my youngest was getting harassed until she got good at kick boxing - and it helps that her mom, me, is rather intimidating and very protective. It's a great thing that at least you are aware of what you would like to change - the first thing you need to DO, is realize that all that is PAST - you need to let it go and work towards making today and tomorrow NEW and DIFFERENT - BETTER. As long as you hold on to the past, you will REMAIN stuck in the past - like driving a car - as long as you are in reverse, you can't move forward. FACE the crap, ERASE the crap, and REPLACE it with new ideas, new input, healthy thinking. Find some group therapy nearby, read books, do anything and everything you can to MOVE ON and away from old ghosts. It's not easy, but you have to. If you do nothing other than complain and stay a victim, the chances of ever learning social skills or making friends are non existent.

Answer 3

I'm most definitely still changed by it. During my middle school years, all the sudden I became shy, something out of character for me. I was teased ruthlessly about not hitting puberty like all the other girls had; I still had the body of a boy.

Even as an adult I still am self-conscious about my body, even though I did fill out in my teens. It's one of those things where if someone bullies you about something you already feel about yourself, it resonates a ring of truth that you just can't shake. :)

Answer 4

I was bullied and picked on because of my size. I was effected for years. I went into a depression but finally I found joy and peace within myself. Oh yeah I figured out at my size, which I was picked on about, I could just crush all the haters.

Answer 5

Well, I think everyone has been "bullied" at some point in their life. But from what I can tell your case sounds a lot more extensive and severe since it went on for so long. Maybe you should talk to a counselor???

Answer 6

No, actually sense i have been out of school the bulling stoped, so my confidence grew stronger and i have noticed that i don't let things bother me like they use to and i don't let people push me around like i use to!!

Answer 7

I used it for positive gain, I empowered myself. So it effected me to be better, do better etc...