Does it hurts to know that ur frnd talks to u or text u only when she is bored, when she has nothing to do, when she needs a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to her?
My frnd has been doing this to me. I feel used by her. So a few days b4 I had stopped talking to her and texting her the way I used to do before. I dont text her any more and talks to her only when she calls me.
I thought doing this would make her understand that how it feels when some1 ignore or avoids u.
She have realised it that I am not giving her the attention like b4 but she has not asked me that am I in any prob or Y I am doing like this!
I dont want 2 talk 2 her how I feel used by her bcoz some how the thought of talking to her makes me degraded.
We have been v good frnds but she got busy in he college and family life.
To 4get her I made frnds but no 1 has bcom as close as she was with me.
I miss her v badly and more than that it hurts to know that she dsnt hv time for me and she dsnt understand me.
2007-03-19 19:32:02 · 13 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This doesn't sound like someone describing thier friend....move on, find a real friend..it's harsh but true
2007-03-19 19:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by Doodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would be hurt if I was a back wheel to a friend. To me that is not a friend and I have been in situations like this. What I did is I stopped all contact with them and if they're really friends they will come back. Some did come back and some didn't and I have learned to accept that, that is life and we are hurt but the hurt fades eventually and you move on to bigger better things. Time does heal all wounds, just remember that! If she's going to treat you like that, you might as well forget her. I know you two were close but with time you and someone else will become close and might even become bff! Do whats right for you. Nobody needs to feel the way you do!!
2007-03-19 19:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by mccamel1666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there lets_smile07, What you are experiencing is what happens to most people...that's life! I know that you are hurting at the moment, but it will pass when you find a way to move on. When you miss your friend and feel hurt, just think about all the times she has used you. A real friend would not use you like that. Its great that you have made other friends...keep going on, you will eventually find a true friend who will show you the loyalty and companionship that you deserve. You are right to not bother with her anymore...you are much better than that! In time you will be ok, and one day you will find that good friend....and you will look back and remember the rubbish person you used to be friends with and it will be a distant memory! I wish you all the best! :o) x
2007-03-19 19:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. if you try to ignore her then your doin the same thing she did to you. I think you need to talk to her and see whats going on. if she starts to act all mean when you talk to her, then she is not the right friend you would want, but if she understands and tries to cope with you then you two should then be moving along slowly
i also have another oopinion on this it might be that your friend has jus been busy latley because you jus sed you two were in college, and she got caught up in college. Well maybe after a couple of months she might change shes jus probbaly really busy right now but if she doesnt really start to talk to you over about 3 months straight, then you need to find a better friend.
2007-03-19 19:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 03:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you really should stop texting. NO THAT WAS A JOKE.
Understand her because of her schedule. Your friends still aren't you?Just don't lose contact even if it's a once per year txt . True friendship lasts forever.
2007-03-19 19:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by JD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you like her, she likes you because the time you spend together is what? memorable? good times? she and you treat each other well or you have fun together, learn together?
if your friend is always friendly and happy to hear from you...maybe she isnt a person who is motivated to disturb you unless you are available. you let her know when youre available...and there she is...to chat with you or spend time with you.
she isnt you. you are wanting her to act like you. be like you are. thats an impossible task for anyone to make a person be like themselves.
enjoy your time with your friends. peace
2007-03-19 19:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is such a good freind explain it to her, and tell her how you feel, and if she understans then you know she is a true freind, if she gets offensive and don't understadnt ehn maybe that is a freindship that has drifted apart..
2007-03-19 19:36:24 · answer #8 · answered by tuffchevy86 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just forget her, she's not worthed. friends are not suppose to make you feel bad or the way you do. friends are suppose to make us feel happy not sad so i would forget her and move on. you owe it to yourself to get a better friend one who appreciate and understands you.
2007-03-19 22:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that has happened to me recently. I like to be used that way , but that is just me. It hurts, but its kind of like scratching an itch; no know that you shouldn't, but you do it anyway.
2007-03-19 19:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Bud#21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋