I have been divorced from my ex wife for 6 years and my Son has been severly truant in school and she has elected to be a foster parent of an 18 month old. My son is 13 years old and my daughter is 11. Need understanding.
2007-03-19 19:31:24 · 13 answers · asked by reme14u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes you should fight for joint custody, he is every bit of yous child as he is hers
2007-03-19 19:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is important that you are in your childrens lives especially at this crucial time in your sons life. You have to ask yourself would it be better to go into court (depending on your ex-wife) and fight for what's rightfully yours or can you come to an agreement with you ex-wife as to the custody issue, if a compromise can be made make sure to get a notarized letter or some kind of legal document stating the terms of the agreement. Whatever you decide I wish the best for you and your children. Good Luck
2007-03-19 19:58:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Reme,
Are there any court orders in place already regarding custody orders and visitation ?
Before you begin to fight for "joint" custody of your son, I'd like to suggest that you talk to you ex-wife about your concerns.
If she is reasonable she will realise that what is important here is your Son and what is best for him.
Hopefully you can come to some arrangement that suits everyone without taking legal action. Showing your son that you and your ex-wife are united in his care of him will only benefit him.
Could you arrange a meeting with your ex-wife over a coffee or lunch and discuss your concerns about your son and his behaviour. If she is against the idea, let her know that although you are no longer married there will always be a bond between you because you share the parenting of the beautiful son you created, and it is important for you both to be united in his care.
2007-03-19 19:50:42 · answer #3 · answered by schmoo_withazing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should fight for full custody and remove him from the situation. You could also get joint custody of your daughter, as she needs her father. She is eleven and will be looking to the boys for attention if she is not getting it from you. He needs to come live with you so you can get him straightened out. He probably is already involved doing things he shouldn't be doing, which could even include drugs. He needs his father to be the role model for him, and you can hopefully turn this around and get him back in school. As you already know, he is on the fast tract to nowhere and will very soon drop out altogether. Do not be surprised if he needs tutoring to help him get caught up with his school work. He also may need counseling to find out why he is behaving this way and to better understand what he is needing from you as a parent. Then hopefully he will not feel the need of the bad influence of his friends that are not the best role models.
2007-03-19 19:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plainly that none of you have a clue what "sole" and "joint" custody mean. Sole custody skill one determine has finished legal selection making authority. the different determine has no say in the place the youngster lives, is going to college, gets scientific therapy, etc. Joint custody skill the two mom and father have equivalent legal selection making authority. the youngster can nonetheless stay with one determine and function visitation with the different. Neither sole nor joint custody have something to do with whom the youngster lives with. this is "residential" custody, which the father might desire to work out shared the two.
2016-10-19 03:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any two divorced people who don't have shared custody of their children are doing their children a grave injustice. You see the children don't have control over the situation that their parents have put them in and get very upset and frustrated about it. That is probably why your son is rebelling at the moment, because he feels that he doesn't count anymore. The quicker you and your wife wake up and do something about it , the quicker you will be saving your child's future.
2007-03-19 19:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me, if your ex cannot handle your son and daughter, she should not take on the responsibility of someone new! Much less an 18 month old!
Why don't you have joint custody anyway??? You have rights.
What happened? Take care of YOUR kids, sounds like she may want state benefits!
2007-03-19 19:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try to go for joint, but i will tell u this late in the game ur going to have to prove alot to get it... judges dont like to disrupt a childs routine once its in place.. but if u can prove that your house is just as stable.. that u can handle having the kids half the time, showing ur capabilities of getting them to and from school etc..and proving this to be a must need for their stability, its definately worth the chance, if nothing else maybe u can get more visitation then u have now, even if its not 50/50.. and if i were u , id tell the judge ur willing to pay child support during the 6 months the kids are with ur x, to prove this isnt a ploy for getting rid of child support. as alot of judges think thats the case since so many dads try to pull this to get out of paying child support and that they really want their kids.. then once its established for awhile then u can always take her back to court down the road to get that changed..
2007-03-19 19:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always fight for your kids!
My wife and I foster kids and theres nothing better but we make sur that our kids know it's them not the foster kids that are the most important in our lives.
It also helps that the kids are our nieces and nephew!
2007-03-19 19:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court you can try sometimes the court will let the child choose but the judge we'll do what is in the kids best interest at their ages the judge might leave it to them i don't know for sure
2007-03-23 12:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋