my roommate and i have been living together for a few months now .. and ive noticed all her flaws.. how do i kindly bring them up without sounding like im attacking her ? she is extremely sensitive.
2007-03-19 19:10:27 · 11 answers · asked by E.B. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm havin the same problem, if you don't talk now it will only get worse, so speak your mind!!!
2007-03-19 19:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by Juicy 1 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends what kinda flaws you're talking about. Keeping everything in will cause alot of negative feelings towards her to boil inside of you. that will make you irritable.
if you have a problem with a habit she has, you can say for example, "hey, is it okay if we do this (whatever would reduce her habit that you dislike)".
its kinda hard to give advice when we don't know what flaws you're talking about.
when you do end up talking about it though, make sure that everything comes out in the open from both sides. then you guys will enjoy living together a lot more.
2007-03-20 02:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A long time ago I had a roommate with terrible bad breath. I bought a bottle of mouthwash, set it by the bathroom sink, and my roommate wondered why I never used it.
Moral: Everyone has flaws. Live with it, or COMMUNICATE openly and fairly.
You never know how much you bug other people until you go to 'fix' their faults for them.
2007-03-20 02:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by Big Bruce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flaws?? Like what??
I don't mean to judge but u sound like a perfectionist, so how about u start by telling her YOUR flaws (so that u don't come across as all perfect) and then say there is things that she does that bothers u, or could be a problem to her someday..(I'm serious)
What are u trying to achieve by telling her?? is it for her benefit??
2007-03-20 02:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard situation. You can either bring it up in a joking tone [which doesnt always work because then they dont take it seriously] or be up front and tell her what's bothering you. allow her to tell if anything has been bothering her too.
2007-03-20 02:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by whosit? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this day -- the age of politically correct and weak mindednes -- you cant. she'll turn on you in a heartbeat and do her best to brealk you down mentally. if your name is on the lease -- kick her out, if her name is on the lease - MOVE, if both names are on the least -- suck it up and dont renew the lease just find another place and live with in your own income
and stay by yourself
2007-03-20 02:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by chazzn101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say "roomy" I'm not trying to hurt your feelings or make you feel bad, but I have a problem with you________________. And if your roommate take offence to that, just come straight out and say how you feel.
2007-03-20 02:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are her flaws that big? do they even need bringing up?
2007-03-20 02:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
live with it. or if something is realy bad bring it up. you have flaws too.
2007-03-20 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by C J 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it affects you personally then tell her face-to-face, but in a good situtation.
2007-03-20 02:22:35 · answer #10 · answered by JD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋