Loving my husband in fun ways and travelling w/ him is all I want to do. I like my personal space and my husband and I are total opposites (he loves being around kids, cooking + cleaning and I don't).I Know of a couple that has been happily married for 30 odd years living across the street from one another in berkeley. Has anyone tried this way of life? For me living w/ ANYONE is not my idea of fun. I prefer to maintain all our activities minus the boring parts of life (i.e., sharing common quarters like bathroom and kitchen space) and continue to dress up when going out as well as being spontaneous in ALL ways (as usual since I hate routine). How is playing house and seeing someone in the morning and evening joyful thing to do for life?Just because I said "I do" didn't mean that I wanted to live w/ the person I love in a situation similar to being in a submarine.he doesn't mind being the homemaker while I work on a project/job to get us all enough of what we need 2 get by.
2007-03-19 19:06:53 · 8 answers · asked by warpedhybrid 3 in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Egypt
I suppose in some situations it could work. I can only tell my own opinion, but I`m not in your shoes. So here goes...
As long as you`re "young and free", or in that kind of stage of life, it can work. More specifically, I mean without kids, without major financial obligations. It worked for us for the first few years of our marriage because we were both students and/or just starting our careers, and very independant people. We travelled together, did our own things, didn`t get on each other`s nerves too much. Our studies and jobs required us to be in different cities.
After a few years we did want to be together however, we got tired of travelling on the weekends, and our relationship wasn`t moving forward the way we wanted to.
Yes, once we lived together, there were more conflicts etc, and our personalities are different, so that took much more work. But we wanted kids, so there was no other way anyway. And I still worked and did my own stuff.
I am also not a domestic kind of person, but I am a mom and enjoy that! (almost always anyway!) But I still work part time to keep those brain cells active, and I have my own social life apart from my husband.
Living together doesn`t mean you give up your own personality. You don`t lose control. You still learn, grow, develop etc., but there is someone to share it with on a deeper level.
Now I`ve experienced a bit more of life, and have been through some more difficult times. Despite the "smelly socks" (from sistablu) and personality clashes, it was extremely important to have someone there beside me when I wake up and start the next day. Or to be there when I get home. Am I getting old? Not yet, but wiser.
2007-03-19 22:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My way of thinking also!
I am living this way at present but not by choice. However when I move to Egypt permanently, we will still continue to live together but apart.
As we are both committed professionals each with our own business interests, it is the perfect answer.
He has his home with his sons and his sister and brother-in-law live with him.
I have my beautiful Luxor flat that was my "making up the contracts " gift.
So far we are really happy and its working so well for all of us.After 3 years its still exciting to see him each and every time.
The boys, plus the rest of the very extended family come for dinner once a fortnight, when I am there.
I have no wish to replace their Mum,but they know I am always there to talk to if they need me.
I don't know if I would do it this way if I was a blushing bride. But having been there and done that. I know that after a while all the new found passion turns into a closely bonded friendship anyway. If you are lucky.
But its also then, you then start to smell the socks and not the roses.
Each to there own, but a part time husband is perfect for me and I wouldn't consider anything else.
2007-03-19 20:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by sistablu...Maat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not a bad idea in the beginning but it can become sort of impersonal relationship, and maybe miss understood by many as an I-don't-want-to-commit attitude but actually that shouldn't matter as long as any of you get to think that way also if you are planning to get children of your own its kinda hard to raise them that way but maybe not impossible if you both really agree on this idea it should be thought carefully up to every single detail, because also even living under the same ceiling there can be those spaces you want of your own, depending on your and his work, that might take you away from each other for longer periods so its basically up to you two, and not a common idea but nevertheless not a bad one up to what you two agree.
2007-03-20 00:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by comiria_maria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds fun yes..but you'll never get to "know" someone unless you live together.
besides..that's all the idea of marriage. it's not fun yes, but its "living" together for better or worse.
Have you thought what to tell your children, when you have them?
2007-03-19 19:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kalooka 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why get married if plan to live separate lives?
2007-03-19 19:13:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my hubby are unwillingly living apart for reasons out of our hands,for me my only wish is to live with him every second of every minuit of every single day.
2007-03-20 00:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i remember why i wanted to get married, to wake up and find him there.. besides me :)
2007-03-19 19:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sahar 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
through figthes or talak i mean break up so they willn't be married any more
2007-03-20 08:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋