Well, I have been happily married to my wife of 9 years now and We are only 3 weeks from our 10th anniversary, But I made the mistake of having sex with her best friend at a party, And she never found out :\ The first time I cheated on her I didnt tell her because I wanted us to last and now I'm starting to feel guilty. Is there something I can do to feel less guilty about cheating on her now and then because I like to be with her because she has a great job and she's a great person to live with-excellent cook-clean funny etc etc but she just doesn't do it in bed for me...
Maybe someone has advice for having a special friend on the side secretly so I don't ruin my 10 years of love?
2007-03-19 18:56:39 · 4 answers · asked by lolatproxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh i forgot to add i might die within 2 years i have hiv or hpv or i dont even remember from the first affair
2007-03-19 19:04:09 · update #1
You have HIV that you got from the first affair but your wife doesn't know about the affair - does she know you have HIV??
If not and you are still having sex with her you should be shot.
If you don't tell her that she could get HIV from you, and she gets sick, you are killing her. If you really love her how can you do this to her?
2007-03-19 19:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In another 10 years your prick isn't gonna work anyway so why would you risk losing someone that has devoted her life to making you happy for a fling.. think about the long run not what Mr happy wants today or you will end up regretting it the rest of your life instead of riding the guilt rid the reason for it
2007-03-20 02:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you won't ease you guilt here. If you are truly sorry and this was a 1 time bad judgment mistake.. serve penance. Threat her like a Queen and redeem yourself and do something to spice up you love life.
2007-03-20 02:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her NOW!
be honest and maybe you might just save your marriage.
2007-03-20 02:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋