why does it hurt before i go to bed, why does it hurt when i wake up, why does love feels so good but hurts so bad, will the tears stop, will i ever look her in the eyes again for what she had done to me or must i hold on to her guilt when it is she that should feel guilty for cheating.
2007-03-19 18:51:30 · 22 answers · asked by jrgimp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in the same situation so I can really empathise with you on this one. The pain at present is unbearable, your thinking is she going to do it again. Trust and respect is the foundation of any relationship and once that has been broken it is very hard to repair or rebuild. You will never feel the same way again, you either have to come to terms with that or well you know what you have to do.
I really am so sorry for you, best of luck.
2007-03-20 00:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting because you just found out that something you believed was true was actually false. You are hurting because you think there must have been something you could have done differently so she didn't want to "cheat" on you. Just remember that you did the best you could, you could not have been done any better. If she wants to try again and you do to, then do it. Ask no details of her indiscretion. Understand that she did not do anything to you. She did something for herself that did not include you. Her actions were most probably out of a survival instinct. She did what she did because she did not see any alternative. Doing nothing was not solving anything. Take this experience and make your relationship better or simply end it. The choice is yours as much as hers.
2007-03-20 02:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her NOW!!!
you should get it out into the open and no remorse for your feelings!
I been the I know what your going though, it feels like your behind a car and it's diving of and your being DRAGGED ALONG and you keep getting hurt over and over again!
NOW HEAR THIS: YOU NEED TO BE YOUR OWN PERSON:
To that end to the following: Tell her she has one chance a t comming CLEAN on everything, and I do mean
EVERYTHING!
After she does you need to assess your life and find out if she the one you want to be with!
Then you need to get counseling, and not hold anything back, get it all out into the open, If she unembarrassed then thats to bad because it's her who made the choice to cheat!
If you have kid ( optionial) the them the truth,because they probably already know.
Get a good Lawyer and if you decide to get a divorce then make it understood that you will sue her for violation of martial contract, and take everything in civil court!
But before all that get your head in the game and understand all your options!
Good luck to you!
2007-03-20 02:36:04 · answer #3 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts so bad because you made yourself emotionally vulnerable to her. No matter how much you love someone you must emotionally protect yourself. The bottom line is you can't trust anyone completely. Realize that when you get in a relationship you are going to get hurt but you must find a way to minimize the hurt as much as possible. If you give your heart completely you are putting yourself in the position to get hurt really bad. Love feels so good when you give it all but if you give it all it will hurt really bad. No matter who it is you must always emotionally protect yourself. Holding back a little is hard but you must do it.
2007-03-20 01:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by babyface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there...
It will hurt for a while and maybe hard to function in life.
Being cheated on feels really painful, almost as if part of you have died... And honestly a part of you have died. Your faith and trust in her has died.
It will be hard if impossible to trust her again. And it will be near impossible to forgive her. Its so hard to get past this and it will always be in your memory. Best thing to do is live life slow and get past this. Take it day by day and hang out with friends or family. Let go eventually...
just recite this... "it wasn't meant to be"
2007-03-20 01:56:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you.
Having a broken heart is the worst pain, but to of been cheated on must make your heart ache so much more.
Good Luck i hope you recover quickly.
2007-03-20 01:55:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love life?make up your mind and then get busy living or get busy dying it's all up to you.there are so MANY GREAT WOMEN OUT THERE WAITING TO MEET YOU,SOME HAVE HAIR THAT SMELL LIKE A GARDEN OF ROSES AND THERE ARE SOME WHOSE LIPS TASTE LIKE THE SWEET NECTAR OF LIFE ITSELF.Wipe away your tears God's love go out there your Eve awaits
2007-03-20 02:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its bothering you that bad you should leave her sometimes cheating is somthing we just can not get over and move on... if you want to keep her then you need to forgive and forget and leave it in the past
2007-03-20 01:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is twice as many women in this world than men. Turn them over and they are all the same. Go get em buddy.
2007-03-20 01:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by little g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can stop your pain! She's not worth your tears. You deserve much better..........Don't cheat yourself out of true love and happiness. Move on and find your peace!
2007-03-20 01:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by artutina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋