I think my boyfriend is using crack, how can I help him before its' to late.?

Question

my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, and we've had our problems, but all of sudden he's been moody, yelling at me, staying out all night, not changing clothes. I have actually witnessed him doing it and of course he tried to tell me it was something else, he tells me he doesn't want me around I know that's not true, that he doesn't derserve my love, his own best friend hasnt talked to him and he talks to him everyday. I love him very much and very possibly could be caring his child, how can I help before it's to late. He's not himself and I am scared.

Answer 1

Get out. When he comes for you tell him you will only go back if he gets help & not out patient help.You can't help him he has to want help & seek it himself.

Answer 2

Not much help for him hes going to have to wont to do it himself or go through a dramatic experience .What ever you say to him hes going to think your picking on him and get self defensive about anything that points to him getting of the stuff he is always going to think he is getting a bad wrap from friends or family . Your young best for you to stay clear and get a different boyfriend free of drugs . I understand that you love him and you may be caring his child but you will never have a life with that person and your child will never have anything possibly put up for adoption because sooner or later hes going to be caught by the law and if your with him then i feel sorry for you and the unborn child

That's just the way life is for people that do crack I'm not trying to scare you just informing you of real life and people on crack .

my ex wife started doing crack and had a child by another man she slept with him to get crack . well she had the baby 4 years ago i have him now she left him 2 weeks after it was born and back on the streets living with a crack head . She wonts nothing to do with her own child . The child is doing just great with me and yes i call him my son hes a great kid .

I am just trying to show you what realy happens to people who get on that stuff . Before she was on that she was a wonderfull person loveing and careing and would do anything to help a person now she is just worthless her teeth are falling out and as skinney as a bone because she spends any money she gets on crack not food . Thats what will happen to you if you follow this man .

Answer 3

Well, for starters, you can try and ask him, why he wants "crack" or do drugs?

If the above doesn't help, make him understand the beauty of life, that you can expect more in life. I mean, is he sad? Is he running away from something? What is he afraid of? I thought people do drugs, to run away from stuff(s).

My best advice to you would be, to ask questions about the drug usage. Ask for the reasons behind it. Do not be harsh, as you'll get the harsh response. Be kind to him and show your affection in a way that he has never ever seen you in :). I think you know what I mean??? Yes?? :) hehe!!

Love usually changes everything in a person's life. This time, try loving him DEEPLY, without hesitation. Trust me :).... it will work on him. Guys are usually DUMB :). Oh wait a minute.... I am a guy, too...... :) hehe!!

Anyway, what I just said before, is true. Show ure deep affection towards him and I guarantee, it'll work.

I also would like to know, if you used my advice and worked, later on. So, if it works, please add me to your contacts.

All the best :)

Bye

Answer 4

I think that you should be trying to find out for sure if you are indeed carrying his child and stop worrying about him and focus on your baby's health, cause the crack that is in his bloodline can pretty much be already in your baby's blood.Crack babies doesn't always come from the mother. They can also come from a man that is doing drugs too.Ask you doctor cause I could be wrong.It's worth checking into.

Answer 5

these words will seem harsh but they are truthful and from the heart. hunny if what you are saying is true than you are in a bad place....if he doesn't want help, no matter what you do or anyone else does...he will not be helped. i've witnessed alcoholics and drug addicts go in and out of rehab, their families struggling to save them and because they weren't ready and willing to quit they died or lost the fight...all you honestly can do is show him the way...ONCE!! and if you have his baby, protect your baby from him...tell him the baby does not need to be born in a house where it's father looks and acts the way he does because of a drug. one more thing, you need to pray to God that he finds his way and i'll pray too. God Bless.

Answer 6

You can't. You will have to step aside and let him hit bottom by himself.
People on crack go down and take everyone around with them.
He will be back for you when he wakes up, or in this case gets some sleep.

Answer 7

What the hell is wrong with you that you want to be dragged down with that gutter trash? Get the hell out of there before something bad happens to you.

You need to realize that this world is a hard place, and you cant save everyone. And most of them dont want you to even try to.

Answer 8

firstly, i think that u shoud be scared f what he might do to u, and then what he might do to himself,

if are 100 oercent certain that he does use it,
tehn u have to get him help

jsut go out there and talk to doctors, and iam sure they will be able to help u,

but just keep in mind,
that if he doesn't want to help himself,
then its not worth u trying to help him,

all the best,

Answer 9

Sad but a lot of people would rather choose crack to their friends or family and will refuse your help.

Answer 10

Leave him now and tell his family.

If anything you do can help shake him up, it will be leaving, which would be best for you and baby anyway if he's on crack.