2007-03-19 18:37:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Married the first time at 22 - we were young and had known each other five months, it wasn't ideal but it wasn't unhappy and neither of us have any regrets.
Married to the most wonderful man in the world since October 2004 and am nauseatingly happy :) I'm 32 now.
2007-03-19 18:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biologically, neurologically the brain, especially the areas of judgment, doesn't fully develop until around 25. For most people. So decisions made before 25 have the potential for being not as reliable as decisions made when a little older. That doesn't mean that statistically being older helps on the miserable stats for first marriages. They're still running over 50% negative (i.e., it's around a 63% divorce rate for first-timers and 70% for second timers). As for happiness, that's an option we all have and has nothing to do with marriage. You can be married at any age and be happy or sad...but that's more a function of your own personality.
2007-03-20 01:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by judgebill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my husband when we were both 19 years old. We were high school sweethearts, and actually dated on and off from the seventh grade until we graduated, we continued to date, and got married. We have two girls and two grandsons, and one son-in-law so far. I am so in love with this man and I would do it all over again. When we got married I never thought that I would be able to love him more than I did on the day we were married, but I was wrong. As the years passed our love and respect for each other grew into some kind of love that I never knew existed on earth.. Not all of our years were easy, and we did need to learn to respect each others thoughts, ideas, and desires, but that is part of growing up and growing closer together. If you make up your mind that you are never going to divorce no matter how bad it looks, you believe that it is going to get better and it does, with a lot of effort. Marriage is not a 50/50 relationship. If you go into your marriage believing that you are going to have to give 99% and only receive 1% , You will make it.You will also find that the more you give to the one you love, the more they give in return. It is not something that happens over night, but it will eventually happen. I am so glad that I married at 19 because I would not have wanted to miss a single day of being with this wonderful man.We are going on 26 years!
2007-03-20 01:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by gigi 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 30 and it's been almost 7 years going. Well, those honeymoon feelings wore off quickly - if that's what you're referring to as "happiness." I don't think the test of whether or not to stay married is my "happiness" meter. I mean - all marriages have ups and downs, challenging times and easier times, that's what those vows were about - for better or worse richer or poorer all that. Plus, I'm such an emotional woman anyway - I can't trust my feelings to base important decisions like that on. I'm totally happy because I choose to be - not because my feelings are always at 100% happy. As long as a man and woman are committed to one another and open to change for the others' best interests - there's nothing you can't work through - and you're marriage will grow stronger rather than dissolve. But I know alot of women where - oh they are just bored or not happy and they leave their husband for no good reason of any other kind - but I know for a fact that happiness is not something you leave behind for anyone through divorce if it's just based on a a feeling - and you're not building happiness for yourself by hurting other people that's for sure. I want my marriage to last until the day one of us dies. It's not a function of age that matters geez - my friends in their 40's married one year ahead of us - she leaves him for an internet relationship when he did nothing but love her and her two kids who were not his geez - like what was she thinking!! There's no guarantees but as far as I'm concerned I'll do what I said at the altar and I believe hubby will too.
2007-03-20 01:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Started dating my hubby when i was in 10th grade, dated all through high school, got married 2 months after I graduated so I was 18. I am 34 now and have been married 16 years in July and yes I am still happy. Don't get me wrong there have been many ups and downs but we have never even thought about splitting up. We are in it for the long haul.
2007-03-20 01:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my hubby when i was 19...I am now 22 and we are both still very happy...A lot of people say that getting married so young is a huge mistake and I know that at times it is...But for us it wasn't...We have been best friends since 4th grade and had been dating for 4 years before we decided to get married...I don't think age really matters, its the maturity of the two people and the love that they share that is important....
2007-03-20 01:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Meagan M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 24, married 15 years, still happy! I think waiting til you're a little older than I was might be a wise idea. We're the rare happy couple, many of our friends married around the same time have divorced...
2007-03-20 01:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married at 20 and after 16 years of marriage I became VERY HAPPY... I got a divorce. I celebrate my freedom from that marriage every year on the date of my divorce!
2007-03-20 02:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by adventuregirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
got married at 23 now 26 yes im very happy
2007-03-20 01:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by jazzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married at 28 divorced by 33
2007-03-20 01:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by james s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋