In a nutshell:
best friends for 3 years, just recently found out we've liked each other the whole time but didn't know. feelings are mutual BUT decided not to risk everything now and have a relationship. Said he wanted a "long lasting real serious" one when the right time comes - not now.
He's HAPPY that we're best friends again because he said he can "talk to me about everything and anything again" and not like before where he didn't know what to do, say, and was more nervous around me. He mentioned (hinted) that beautiful girls intimedate boys and says that guys always check me out b/c i have "looks". He "fishes" for answers to see if i'm interested in anyone. He says, "would u get mad if i went out w. someone in a month, 2 months?" just to get my reaction - he responded, "if i ever break up with someone, at least you'll still always be here"
when i said, "everything's gonna be normal again - guys will be at me & you'll be the friend always there" - he sounded sad...
2007-03-19 18:34:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
**** he's the "shy boy" type*****
oh yeah and i think he's trying to get over me by talking to his old crushes (even though they are taken) because he knows i can bounce back easily with other guys...
2007-03-19 18:34:37 · update #1
I think he's harbouring some strong feelings for you. Yet, if you are young chances are things will not work out in the future. Date other people, remain friends, and in a year or two who know - maybe you'll be ready for a long term thing.
Guys are not always as keen at long term stuff. However some of us, like myself, are suckers for stability and anabashed affection.
Be open with him.
cheers.
2007-03-19 18:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is unhappy with the 'mutual' decision of deciding to not go forward, that's why he sounded sad. Life is too damn short! If you feel strongly about this guy, if you care for or love him, screw the friendship and be with him. He could be the one, and quite frankly, your friendship is never going to be the same now anyway. So not risking it for 'fear of losing the friendship' is a ship that has already sailed.
I'm not saying you've ruined it but it definitely took a hit. If you aren't into him, just go back to the way things were and hopefully he will snap out of it and get over you. If you DO have feelings for him, then I say love is worth the risk.
2007-03-19 18:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please check your self absorbed ego at the door maybe deep down he still loves you but thats not always enough to sub stain a relationship
2007-03-19 18:43:09 · answer #3 · answered by Are we using our brains today 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...you have just been told..."i don't like you enough to be with you as a boyfriend" how much more clearer did you need?
2007-03-19 18:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nopes. Move on.
2007-03-19 18:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋