My "friend" sucks?

Question

Ok, this isn't really a question per sey, but I still need to vent a bit and any input would be nice.

Anyway, last Friday my so called friend took a crapload of pills and later on that night she wasn't doing so well so her boyfriend calls me and asks me what she took. I only knew one of the kinds of pills she took, so I told him about what I knew.

Anyway, the next night she calls me asking what I told him and she said I told him she took some street drugs too. I didn't say that, but since he swore on their daughters life she believes him over me.

So anyway, now she hates my guts and won't talk to me or even hear me out. I did everything I could for this girl and then some. Am I wrong for thinking she is a very ungrateful *****?

Wow, thanks for all of the responses. It's basically over. She refuses to talk to me and says she hates me, so all I can say is I tried. I'm sure she'll live a miserable life and probably die young, but that's no longer my problem. I was her friend for like 13 years, so it's her loss. Still kinda hurts she'd think I'd lie like that though.

Of course, the more I think about it why would I want to be friends with an immature druggie like that anyway. I'm not perfect, but damn she's straight out crazy.

Answer 1

Hey I no exactly what you are going through. I am much older then you I am sure. But i have done somethings of being honest and found out by doing so it made this much worse. It is so funny how doing the right thing can sometimes be the wrong thing. She will find out when he dumps her that she will look for you and then want to become friends and start to say she is sorry. But hey well then it is way to late. She is not a real friend if she is going to belive some person she has been with a short time over her long time friend. And better yet she needs help, sounds to me like she is a very sickooo taking pills , maybe she is looking for attetion. Sorry for you the lose of your friend ship, You still done the right thing. Hell with her you can find another friend.

Answer 2

Well, I guess this case can be closed. If your friend has developed an inferior complexity and have ruined a long-time friendship with you, it is definitely her loss, as you said before.

Basically, people on drugs do not understand what he/she is saying. Let me tell you something. I know she's been rough with you, but you also need to understand, that her brain is not functioning the right way. This means, when she truly wakes up......... she will feel the loss of a good friend like you and will probably cry to tears, to come back to you.

If the above happens, my friend, please reach out :) For now, stay away and mind your business. Do not care for her, yet. Let her feel the loss! People sometimes, change!...... Sometimes, only :)

Good luck.

Answer 3

It might have been a misunderstanding. Maybe for whatever reason he really did think they were street drugs, therefore willing to swear on his daughter's life.Talk to him, and make sure you know exactly why he said what he said and if he did at all. It might have been YOU who misunderstood. Don't jump to conclusions, no matter how obvious it might seem.

I don't know what happened, but you might not know the exact situation either. Talk to each person individualy, then together and remember to stay calm and avoid any more trouble. If you see its not going anywhere, and everyone is being stubborn, then drop it and give it some time.

Hope it all works out for you!

Answer 4

NO, you are not wrong to think that. She doesn't understand that you are trying to help. You can't help people who don't want to be helped. If you two have been friends for a really long time and have never majorly lied to her, take her aside and tell her you would never say that. She has to believe you. Why would you suddenly lie about something like that? If she still doesn't believe you, try talking to both your friend and her boyfriend. If that doesn't work, meet with her boyfriend and give pass a note asking if he lied to her.. Then, if he writes yes down, you could always show it to her. If she still takes his side, she's no good friend of yours. Sorry, it's kinda long lol. :)

Answer 5

well you dont have to guess why she took the pills.
Could you imagine what her life must be like having to deal with that lying jerk.
He is the cause for her feeling so bad so he is trying to be sure that she has NO friends so he can TOTALLY control her life.

I am saying this so that you wont continue to worry about it....she is not ungreatful, she is a battered woman who lives with a strange man
YOu dont have to be her friend anymore (I wouldnt) but knowing this will help you to know that it was not you!

Answer 6

You didnt ask for advice but Im gonna give it to you. Whenever you help anyone out you will end up paying for it one way or another. The more you help the more you get stabbed in the back.
It didnt use to be that way but thats the world we live in now. The advice is if your gonna help someone dont expect appreciation, expect to get screwed.

Answer 7

I've had many friends just like that, truthfully its hard to trust anyone these days. They call themselves friends and end up backstabbing you in the end. But give this a few days and see how things go in the end, do what YOU want to do.

Answer 8

Yes, because you should be mad at her boyfriend because he is made things the way they are. You should talk to him to try and resolve this conflict through him, and get him to tell her that he misunderstood you. If you don't, you might end your relationship with your friend, and I'm sure you don't want that to happen.

Answer 9

Drugs mess up thinking. Sometimes they mess up personality. What's a mom doing drugs for, anyway?
She's not really a friend any more, and not a mom, either, just a drug user.

Answer 10

Well, maybe she's just being a ***** and that wasn't cool. If she's a true friend, then you guys will be able to patch things up,good luck!