Do any of us believe in old fashioned rules of dating anymore? Do any of you still think that the old rules of our mothers and grandmothers still apply?
I do. And what I don't get is why so many don't see the simple logic behind some basic rules of thumb.
Like, never asking a man out. Only flirting or encouraging a guy to ask us. We all know the down side of asking a man out, right?
Have we lost the notion of the essence of the chase?
I'm not saying be cold to your man or stick to a rigid set of Rules. BUT, some old fashioned rules do still work. Whether you're dating, engaged or married. What are some pearls of wisdom you can share??
2007-03-19 18:12:00 · 10 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I disagree with the girl saying old school can not apply i happen to be very much in the modren world but as a mother i choose to stay home with my kids this does not mean i wait on my husband hand and foot but since he pays all the bills yes i cook all the meals but on weekends when he is off he has to help out around the house..The thing i see happen less and less with the times is men that open doors for thier dates i have to remind my husband now and then i expect the door to be open and my chair to be pulled out...
2007-03-19 18:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep... i grew up believing in the WOMEN"S MOVEMENT... thinking that women can do everything a man can do, but better... then i got married and tried to do it all ... work, take care of the house, the cooking, the shopping, the everything... not that my hubby didn't want to help, but i thought that i should be able to do it all or i wasn't a REAL WOMAN like "they" said i should be able to be......
Then along came baby #1 and i did the whole daycare thing and still worked and took care of the house, cooking, shopping, .... everything.... then along came baby #2 and i had a breakdown... how in the world was i going to keep doing it all, but how could i throw my career away??
It was then that i realized that if i didn't put my career aside that i'd throw my family away. I was already having someone else raising my baby... i was being a terrible wife, a terrible mom and i was not doing so great at work... so I gave it up.
I am now a very proud, very happy stay at home mom and wife. It is the most rewarding career any woman could ever have. Many women think that it is like giving up their lives, but it's not ...it's embracing the life of a woman... it's what REAL WOMEN do. It makes happier children, a happier husband, a happier home, and a happier woman....
So that is my pearl of wisdom to women!
2007-03-20 01:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The old school rules are old school, that's all there is to it. Times change and our culture evolves. Think about the time period when these rules were in effect. Women weren't expected to hold jobs, they were expected to vote or be opinionated. They were house wives, the same goes for girls. They weren't supposed to be opinionated and outgoing. Our society has changed so much since those times. Women are now equally involved in the working world, the government, and are getting more involved in our love lives. This the time of the "take charge women" not the housewives. That's why old school rules can't apply to a new world.
2007-03-20 01:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still believe in old fashion rules. I'm not sure why. I did not grow up in a traditional household, it was more contemporary, feminist, and liberal. But I'm the youngest child and old fashion rules tend to place men and women in traditional roles of men as providers. And that always made me feel safe since I was the baby and I have a better relationship with my father.
Anyways, thats my personal take on traditional courtship.
My pearls of wisdom about dating is confidence. I never had it where it counts but the areas in which I lack in confidence, I see the problems and how they can easily be eliminated with just some good self-esteem.
2007-03-20 01:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tania La Güera 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are the one with pearls of wisdom......you need to publish the 'rules' for me to take a look at ; ) And yes, I do agree with many of the old school rules of dating...I would never ask a man out, I want them to open the door, etc.....
About the only thing that I have learned lately is how silence speaks volumes.......sometimes we never shut up and are forever in our mans face trying to get them to share their feelings with us. This drives men crazy...but if you just sit back quietly and with patience, sometimes they do start to open up.
2007-03-20 01:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my husband was raised old school. and i have to say, his mother did such a wonderful job. there is nothing wrong with being an equal partner in a relationship. it's being treated like a lady at the same time that really counts. because my man treats me like a queen, i treat him like a king. what he asks for he gets. what i ask of him, i get over what i asked for. my husband still opens my door for me. jumps to kiss me before he leaves from work and when he comes home. always paid the bill when we went out, but let me pay for it when i pushed the point of paying. because that is the gentleman that he is. and i wouldn't expect anything less from him.
2007-03-20 01:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with you to an extent. I think some women have the notion that because of women's liberation it's their right to go and ask men out, that's fine if it works for them. Personally, that's not the route I have chosen to take, and I'm doing just fine.
2007-03-20 01:49:16 · answer #7 · answered by OohLaLa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the old rules still apply and should be applied.
2007-03-20 01:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes true..agree with you
2007-03-20 01:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jennie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No . Its even now
2007-03-20 01:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by jodeefla1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋